The more it goes, and the more I have come to question people's core and real motivations, and ask : Is that really their life path and what they are really passionate about?
very honest post really. Now you have done a diagnostic, what are you going to do about that? what options are there? - one option could be to retrain as a golf pro coach. and make your name , glory and fame by creating champions out of unusual people - poor kids, disadvantage kids, etc... and even hopeless starting golfers. You might then see your failed pro golfing experience as a source of knowledge to create success all around you. - one option could be to train your kids into becoming great golfers , IF they have a passion for it - at least you made a good choice : going for a woman , that you really love , and who really loves you. Many women would have by now given you the boot - as what they really love is the $$$$-fame and whatever else ,not the person.
I almost got married a few months ago. But had to break it off because I realized how materialistic my fiance was. The sad part is that most other women are like her. Even ones that you would think are good. The more I date the more disillusion I get with them. I was smart enough to see what marriage life and divorce would be like to get out before getting trapped in. My last hope is that I hope it's only here in the USA. I hear good things about Brazilian women.
False belief. The truth is you subconsciously seek and attract women who are like that. This goes with subconsciously look repugnant to the good women, who with reason, stay clear of you - as you are not suitable for them just now- with your belief system and conditioning. Best for you to do some serious work on yourself.
What? I don't subconsciously seek anything out. I have an uncle that just went into a nasty divorce. It's he's second one. Everyone would have thought his second wife was "good". And he should have known as his first wife was a psycho. The main problem really isn't with women but with the divorce laws in the US that are women friendly. If I can marry and get a divorce later on without the consequences I would have no problem doing it. But the current laws are making marriage a risky deal. Especially with the wrong type. But I'm not sure you can tell anymore the difference now-a-days.
I guess I have touched your HOT button. Please allow me to smile . Regarding divorce laws - now with my little experience- I would make these even much more tougher and get people who marry to read them for 3 different sessions BEFORE the wedding day. Reason : so that people think twice , even three times about it. If people can not understand thanks to the law, life and experience will teach them anyway. I guess your uncle example is telling you, that marriage is a VERY important decision - I now would say the most important decision someone makes about their own live. I too learned. So now, what are you going to do about it? Refuse to work on yourself?
Also, some questions you MIGHT ask yourself: - how did you learn about relationships? The media ( television, magazines including porn,...) examples? Hollywood examples? Your parents examples? Your uncle examples? Look to where you are getting ideas about relationships, suitable women, etc... and compare how you subconsciously follow. This is JUST one type of questionning on this subject. This is why it is important to work on yourself, so as to free your subconscious mind, and make choices driven by your heart and your mind. Great psy are really worth their money.
But why would anyone want to be a trader? Has anyone ever met a happy trader? They're all miserable. It's only the newbies who are happy-- with their pie in the sky dreams. And some of the cheesier vendors, who act that way as part of their sales pitch.
You say you like your current office job, the people, etc. The first successful trader I met [once I had a little experience trading and actually knew what he was talking about] was a guy who traded 2 - 3 contracts. Mostly while he was brushing his teeth, etc., in the AM getting ready for his day. Most days he makes $300 - $500. He is scalping crude oil, that's just 10 ticks or so. Some days he loses. He used to trade full time, and did well. But he reached a level where the larger size he traded, he felt he was giving to much to taxes, and he was taking all the risk. He realized that he had attained enough of his trading dream and wasn't that happy overall. Etc. Etc. So he cut back his trading size and time. Took a job that he liked, and for truth does the job because he just likes hanging with the people who work there. Makes more money trading than on his job. None of the people there know that he trades. But he is relaxed and happy. And says his success rate is higher now that he trades less time. If the job ends and the company closes, he's good. If he has a bad season trading, he's good. A different goal than many have, but kind of cool in my observation. He is a young guy, with family and kids.