I'd like to hear from other people on this. I'm looking to have my eyes opened. In this past year it has really dawned on me the extent to which we do things solely because we have been told 'this is the thing to do', or simply by observing what other people do, we do the same without stopping to wonder, 'does this make sense?' 'Why am I doing this?'. Same thing with beliefs and values. So many of our beliefs and values, it seems to me, come down to nothing more than customs. In other words we have deeply head beliefs that, when it comes right down to it, we can't justify why we feel that way. I hope I'm making my point here. I'm hoping we don't get bogged down debating the beliefs themselves. I just want people to give examples of their own experience so that hopefully we can learn from each other. My own examples: I've always believed that polygamy was 'wrong'. Being married to 1 person for your whole life was 'good'. After reflection I can't justify why I felt that way. I guess it's just what I've always been told, and I am accustomed to. Similar to my thoughts on gays/being gay. I was raised to think that it is 'evil' or 'wrong'. Reflecting on it I can't find any harm in it whatsoever. The only viable reason someone can tell me it's wrong is because someone wrote it in a book once that supposedly God said so. Sorry that is not enough reason for me. If that was enough justification for me to think what is right or wrong then the world is in a lot of trouble. Any joker can write something in a book and say 'God told me to write this'. I don't want to debate my beliefs here. I'll do that in other threads. I'm just looking for input from other thoughtful people who have had similar realizations.