The option of working till your 40's and building a nest egg, than using it to retire in Asia or some other desirable location is quite attractive for some single men. You can still start a family later in life with a hot young thing and have kids but you should be able to have much more control and have much more fun on the way as well. American women usually don't match against many foreigners. IMHO.
If that's your thing, knock yourself out. I take it as a compliment that I'm more difficult/demanding than some 16 year old Asian girl. Thank heavens that's the case.
If you don't have a home, buy one right now. Interest rates will never be lower, and sellers will never be more flexible. 20 years from now you'll be very happy you made the move.
To AmyM: As a suggestion I told the OP not to marry, ever. It is a bad idea. You did not like it, is marriage a good idea for him ? I asked two times to explain why the OP should marry and what is good about marrying for a rich man and what are the benefits. You wrote a lot but you never ever answered my question. By not answering you already made my point, for the OP marriage is still a bad idea. Out of curiosity I finally asked you, directly...if hypothetically you were to get married why would be good for your rich or soon to be rich husband. you write: <b> Because everyone has a risk preference, and if he feels confident that he can survive me taking half of his wealth, the benefits outweigh the downside. </b> If he wants to do charity so be it, there are nobler causes than your vagina. If after divorce you walk out with 1/2. the benefits outweight the downside FOR YOU. <b> Because once you get to a point in a relationship where marriage is even a possibility, a certain level of trust must be present. Trust that his stuff is safe with his wife. </b> Again there is no reason to marry for him. If there is trust you are going to have it whatever you marry or not. <b> Because there are pre-nups to protect assets that each person owned before marriage.</b> Prenups can be challenged. Why bother with future headaches and problems, for him it is still much simpler and more effective not to marry. By the way, we also have a law called Vaginamony. That is what pisses me off, not you or any woman with or without an agenda, but a system that allows for it to happen. I just refuse to be part of it. <b> Because he's not a paranoid asshole who thinks that women are only after his money.</b> Finally you show your true colors. It is all about money. You are paranoid too. Why does he has to go to the city council and sign a legal contract to prove that he loves you ? Some single guys I know are worth 10 M one 50 M. You stated you have no interest in the guy watching tv all day. Your future husband is successful, yet he is a paranoid asshole if he worries about the reasons why you date him ? I would call that being smart, you being an asshole. You mentioned before your husband risk preference is special. He does not worry about you taking 1/2 of his company because he not an asshole. Are we counting that as a "logic" reason to marry ? LOL <b> Because he wants to.</b> You keep failing in giving just one logic reason. WHY <b>why does he want to ?</b> Oh yeah, because he is not an asshole and in case things go wrong he can survive with 1/2 of what he had before meeting you. All the reasons you gave have logic for YOU, not him.
I've given you reasons. You disagree with them. Fine. Don't get married. But don't think that because you believe women are out to get you that is the objective truth. It's just not.
I and most wealthy guys disagree, or guys on their way to be wealthy like the OP disagree, because with the system we have we don't see any benefit for us. Your reasons are not good reasons from our point of view. There is a benefit for you and for the kids, but not for the wealthy guy unless marriage is for him and for her. People need to work on a marriage every day and it is hard, that's why most fail. Once it was different, people made an effort to stick with each other. Now we have 25 emails each with text messages myapces facebooks. I am not saying that you would, but if you give people a chance to screw up most people will screw up. And if to the hardship we add the kind of law that we have failing a marriage for a wealthy guy is a scary scary proposition. For the records I am getting married this very month and I do have the best intentions, but in case my heart will be broken, my wallet is what is going to carry me on.
you can't even dream some of the conditions that I put in the prenup, but had to pay the lawyer $10.000 to write it. It is like buying a put option for the stocks I own lol.
Little Update. Turns out that at the last moment she did not want to sign the prenup. Everything I mentioned before is not my opinion but it is a fact. Nowdays for most men marriage is a bad bad deal no matter what. Again: http://www.nomarriage.com/
I'm around the same age as you are. I think you should invest in my Hedge Fund and live it up and travel the world on the money I'm going to be making for you.