<b>As a woman certainly you don't like the idea of men not marrying.</b> Bullshit. It's true that when I was younger, I felt it very important to get married. Now I just care about money. I don't think I have enough room in my life for a relationship. <b> There is no reason for a man to sign a document to express his love for you other than the fact that that documents becames a contract fully supported by the law and the system we live in.</b> Whatever. If you don't want to marry, don't. But don't pretend that ridiculous book was because women are clamoring for marriage. <b> Among the other things that contract puts at great risk the man earning potential. If he does well you'll be entitled to 50% of what he makes. You see he could put $ 10.000 into the pot but if he makes the other $ 900.000, guess what ?</b> Absolutely. That's another reason I don't want to get married. I've worked very hard for my money. I don't want a man to be able to take half of my net worth. <b> 50% of 1 million will be yours, but to you that is certainly not disgusting, is it ?</b> It's disgusting to accept unearned wealth. Period. <b> And I don't even go into the other part of why marriage is so horrible for a man who got his things together. Contrary to what we are taught, the idea of one person for the rest of your life, and again ONLY one person to have sex with till the day you die is totally unnatural. Most single healthy men like younger women. In general most men, are attracted to, and would like to be with., not just one, but many younger women. It might not be politically correct, but it is biologically correct. </b> If they're animals, sure. But I don't care about "most men" or "most women". I don't know why anyone else would care either. By the way, most people - like 99% - marry, so clearly you are in the minority. <b> Unfortunately today most hot women place their vagina in an Ebay auction-like for the highest bidder. </b> You are expressing your opinion of women, not "most hot women." <b> It is best for a man do completely focus only on himself and keep all his money for himself so that every time he brings money to the table the women can bring their look. That way he can enjoy variety and leave the drama to others. </b> Men - AND WOMEN - should focus on themselves. <b> A man of $ubstance usually gets the hot women, while the poor man usually gets the fat and ugly women. It is just reality.</b> And why might that be? I was just thinking about that today. Rich men are accomplished; they have achieved something. They don't sit around smoking pot and watching South Park and wondering why they have no women and no job. I need someone to look up to. Usually in this world, achievement correlates to wealth. Not always, but usually. And the achievement is what I want. I don't care about anyone's wealth but my own, but I care a great deal about surrounding myself with romantic prospects and friends who are productive, accomplished people. If I were to get married - and that is not a goal at all - I would much rather come home to a man who had designed a house or built a company or created something than the dude who is high and watching South Park.
Not sure why you replied since you seem to agree with the basics. By the way 50% of marriages in Cali fail, and only God knows about the reality of the other 50%. And men are not " animals " it is simply in our biology to be that way whatever you accept it or not. You are in the minority every time you think we are animals or pigs. It is in our nature and eventually it will come out, again and again, that's why men got nothing to gain in a marriage. You might be different than most women, but unfortunately it is not about you or what you believe. It is about a very messed up system that screws financially responsible men with marriage. One after another. 168 Million because she has the magic vagina. Michael and Junita Jordan $ 168 M Neil Diamond & Marcia Murphey 150 M Steven Spielberg & Amy Irving 100 M Harrison Ford & Melissa Mathison 85 M and the list goes on with the most expensive divorces... http://top-10-list.org/2009/05/06/ten-most-expensive-divorce-settlements-hollywood/ MEN ARE SICK AND TIRED OF IT. Take a look only one time it was a woman ( Madonna ) to pay. Do your math and explain what benefit there is for the OP or any financially responsible man when he marries. NONE !
I replied because your comment was absolutely ridiculous. Your hatred of women is crystal clear. Don't marry. Please, do not marry; no woman can benefit from marrying someone who has so much free-floating resentment toward marriage and women in general.
I see. Now I hate women because I showed how men are the ones who pick up the bills when there is a divorce. Wake up, it has nothing to do with me or you. What is ridicolous is to pay 100 M for a divorce ! Or is that right if the man got the $$$ ? I showed you facts not opinions. Not only you refuse to accept what is going on, but you still didn't give one good reason why the OP or any successful man should marry.
<b>I see. Now I hate women because I showed how men are the ones who pick up the bills when there is a divorce. </b> That expression is imbued with hatred of women. You assume that men are the ones who pick up the check when there is a divorce. You said that fat/stupid women were the only ones that men who are not wealthy could get. Are you not seeing this? Are you denying you are a bitter person with a lot of hatred for women? If you don't see that, maybe you should audit yourself, or perhaps just try to write more accurately. <b> Wake up, it has nothing to do with me or you. What is ridicolous is to pay 100 M for a divorce ! </b> No it's not. If the woman quits her job (which is retarded) or if the woman supports the husband while he goes through med school or something - both these are situations where a settlement is fair. <b> Or is that right if the man got the $$$ ? </b> Or the woman. <b> I showed you facts not opinions. </b> That's hilarious. All you said was that women were golddiggers and men liked to fuck pretty girls. Those are opinions. Not even very flattering ones. <b> Not only you refuse to accept what is going on, </b> What is going on? Maybe something is going on with you. Maybe you're going through a divorce or your parents are or someone you know. Because most people are not this bitter and wound up over the issue of divorce and marriage. Your whole argument seems to be that women take men's money. You don't seem to be able to see that 1.) there are some acceptable reasons for that and 2.) men have some culpability here. You seem to just hate women and believe they're all golddiggers. <b> but you still didn't give one good reason why the OP or any successful man should marry.</b> I don't care if men marry. I think marriage has value but it's not my place to convince any man to marry (or woman for that matter.) I do think most men come to value marriage more as they get older but that is not always the case.
To AmyM, You keep on going back to me, my hate of women, my situation. I am wealtry, never married no kids, I am single and I want to remain single. End of the story. Facts is that men pick up the bills when there is a divorce. They pick it up when they have money and the woman is hot ( only 1 out of 10 was a woman ) and when the woman is fat and ugly. Men are still going to pay one way or another. You believe it is fair for a man (or a woman) to pay 100 M for a divorce because THE ODDS ARE THAT THE MAN WILL HAVE MORE MONEY THAN THE WOMAN ! You too said before that if you were to marry you would consider marry a man who owns a company and not a someone who watches tv all the times. Do you own a company ? Let me guess, if hypothetically things go wrong who is going to pay for the divorce ? He is going to fork you 50% of his company. How exciting where should he sign up ? There might be exceptions to the rules but usually men pay. Women hot or ugly tend to date men who make as much as they do or more. The hotter the woman is the more financially stable and wealthy man she is going to get. The richer a man is the more desiderable woman he is going to get. It is not about me or my opinion. It is reality. You still can not give one good reason to marry, does not matter how much you write, well then, name just one male celebrity who married a fat woman, can you ? You can't, because there isn't any. Just like there are no good reason to marry. I did not say that all women are goldiggers, you see not all women want to be golddiggers and not all women can ! But most attactive women if they can they will sell their look. It is just nature. What I did say is that 99% of men like to fuck pretty girls whatever you like it or not they do and they will, even if you are super hot and have a magic vagina they will still want to fuck other pretty girls. It is nothing personal so learn to deal with it, it is simply how it is. If a wealthy guy in his 40's go out with some 25 y/o model do you think he is really interested in her favourite book, political views, her opinion about where the stockmarket is going to go ? He wants to fuck her. Period. Later they might be able to to talk about something deeper, meaningful, but the number one reason he first invites her out is to deliver his sperm to her. What is going on is not about me, or my parents or you it is about a world that your distorted perception has hard time to deal with. There are many more women and men than the ones we talk about ok ? But if we talk about hot women and successful men in one way or another THEY ALWAYS SEEM TO END UP TOGETHER. Men like young women and women ( young or not ) find men with money and power to be a big turn on. DEAL WITH IT ! If Donald Trump was working as the manager of Domino's Pizza with his funny hair Melania Knauss wouldn't even fart his way. That is why marriage for a man who has money or is about to have a high earning potential makes absolutely no sense. Donald Trump is married but in his book he talks a lot about prenup. The bottom line is that you can't state one good reason to marry there isn't any. Without signing a contract the successful man who doesn't sit on the couch all day can: love you, live with you, have kids and do just about EVERYTHING ELSE that he would do by being married ! Do you get it, anything done by a married guy can be done by a guy who does not marry. Same thing less risk. Why marry you and put at risk his company and his money, why should he do it ? I DARE YOU TO GIVE ONE LOGIC REASON. Don't bother about writing anything else. Just ONE reason.
Hilarious. You say, "don't make it about me or you" and then you ask me a very direct hypothetical question about me. Logic is a funny thing, it never blinks. But to be a good sport: <b> Why marry you and put at risk his company and his money, why should he do it ? I DARE YOU TO GIVE ONE LOGIC REASON.</b> Logical reason, you mean. Here are a few logical reasons: Because everyone has a risk preference, and if he feels confident that he can survive me taking half of his wealth, the benefits outweigh the downside. Because once you get to a point in a relationship where marriage is even a possibility, a certain level of trust must be present. Trust that his stuff is safe with his wife. Because there are pre-nups to protect assets that each person owned before marriage. Because he's not a paranoid asshole who thinks that women are only after his money. Because <i>he wants to</i>.