I love this analysis so much I want to frame it. Except that I don't think women are genetically inclined to be irritating or are born that way. I think what you are describing is strictly an American phenomenon that is spreading throughout the world. Women are not raised correctly in the US, so that "irritating" that you mention is really just a US (maybe western) problem. I occasionally stumble across women that impress me and do real work, but they almost always are foreign born, the children of immigrants, or the children of very education-focused Jews.
I highly doubt it has anything to do with your personality, although I am sure you are nicer now than you were at 19. These days, it has more to do with your odds of having health benefits and living in a manner that isn't paycheck to paycheck.
Families, especially fathers need to stop raising their daughters to be little princesses. Many women are brought up with this asinine sense of entitlement that they deserve to be treated SOOO much better (than boys) simply because of that thing between their legs.
This thread is about what is happening to men and how modern society is messing with our mind. I know I am going to be hated for this, but you guys are barking up the wrong tree when you blame women for anything. Women for God knows how many hundreds if not thousands of years have had to be second fiddle to men and I think this is wrong. In fact, we owe them a huge apology. The woman in your life should be a companion, a person to be respected and trusted. If you don't see it that way, you are a divorce waiting to happen, or something akin to modern man, lots of sex, but no real connection with anyone. What ails men today has nothing to do with women trying to keep men down, control them, or any other evil thing. Look around you, 95% just want a responsible guy they can trust and respect! Then they want to hop on your bones the whole night long. They couldn't give a rats ass what you make or not, only they know that if you don't make more than they do it causes huge resentment and eventually a heart wrenching breakup. So naturally, you put your hand on a hot stove once, and you assume that all stoves are hot. We all vent in our own ways based on our experiences, but my beef has nothing to do with women since they have never been anything but my biggest fans. So, I at least, cannot see eye to eye with you guys on this. Yes, I am nicer than I used to be. Even my ex looks at me with "why couldn't you have been this way with me?" "Life must be lived forward, but it is only understood backwards" - Soren Kierkegaard
I never said anything about blaming women. I'm just saying that at your age, their loss-function (i.e., acceptability criteria for someone who isn't perfect) is optimized differently. Ultimately you are not viewed the same now (vs. then) because the women in your peer group have new variables to work with -- things like health care coverage get a greater share of the man-feasibility-pie than chrome rims or high-school social status. And you are wrong about women not caring about what you make or don't make. I find it really shocking that you see women in a different light than the market, where it's nothing but constant gaming and angling to find a workable situation. This isn't to dismiss everything you've said. There's truth to the idea of having a companion and such, but the whole package does include money and social climbing.
I see the logic of your situation, but then it begs the question, if the women you meet are into "social status", why not change the scenery or expand your options where you look to meet people? I have met women that see only your soul. I bet if you looked deeply into yourself and stepped back, you would realize that the axioms by which you live your life are the very things that cause you to experience your life the way you do, and in particular women. Even the language you use gives a great hint as to why your experience unfolds for you the way it does. If the women you meet are this way, change scenery! Change yourself! Leave all bias behind and explore new uncharted waters, imo. The secret of success is constancy to purpose - Benjamin Disraeli
Happilly... the day after BoA is buyed by BoP ( the bank of the Panda ^^ if you understand ) it will ( I hope ) be a strong enough Wake Up call for these suckers ( but too late... ahahhah ) ... Call them FAT CATS... ( the sex has no influence )... and you forgot the masters of this little charade... they call themselves: " HUMAN RESOURCES"... they are the kings of the fat cats... they choose who will live, who will die... what type of career you will do... what will be your path...
I asked a similar question here: http://www.elitetrader.com/vb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=183219&highlight=A+poll+only+women A modest poll, since only got 16 responses, and probably a couple of those are idiots pretending to be women.
Nice guys who have a sentimental outlook are the ones who usually get hurt the most. Men and women want things in life that they have access to. We don't know what these things are unless we discove then explore them. Perhaps we can only find happiness if seek new areas of exploration, without and within. Some women are strong enough to attempt this but often if you feel your horizons are limited you will seek to impose order in a small world. Animals go crazy in cages.