Here's a chain letter going around: One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed. Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, "I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me." I said, "WHAT??!! What was that?!" So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear... "You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man." She responded to my puzzled look by saying, "Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?" Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep. The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to take, so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said, "Lets get a pair for each outfit." We went on to the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you... she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even know how to play tennis. I think I threw her for a loop when I said, "That's fine, honey." She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation, she finally said, "I think this is all dear, let's go to the cashier." I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No honey, I don't feel like it. Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled, "WHAT?" I then said, "Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman." And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, "Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?" Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either....but at least that bitch knows I'm smarter than her.
QQQBall, How do you have a stash of money where she wont know about it ... especially when it comes up with taxes/or even in a divorce etc ...
Exactly. If you do, you're toast... If it's true, then that guy should be a comedian... Hell, even if it's not, that shit is funny... I used to date a woman that was a true high-class chiken hed. Everytime she pulled this shit, I cut her off from everything else... Everything else... I'd take her laptop, parfume, watches, etc... No flowers, no dinners (not just elegant restaurants mind you, I wouldn't even buy her a McDonald's Happy Meal), no cleaning the house, no cleaning the kitchen, toilet seat up, dirty clothes thrown everywhere (she refused to clean anything b/c it's the maid's job... Daddy's little snotty Bitch...) Her little temper tantrums would last about two or three days, then she would give in... Gold-diggers suck...
It's all about attraction. We attract into our lives people and circumstances that to a big degree complement our inner most thoughts and conscious ideals. If you find that you are attracting people into your life who only care about how much money you have, chances are good you yourself give money too much importance. Most of the problems we see in "our" world are mostly a reflection of who we are inside....
Don't know how you deal with that shit ... I would kick her out the door so fast. Women like that most likely have a guy that they fuck and a guy that buys them stuff. Make sure you're not the latter.
Last time I checked... I was still a successful trader. I don't know about the rest of you, but greed and pride are very prevelant qualities of my character. I have no qualms with admiting it, and as far as I'm concerned I don't consider that to be a bad thing... I did kick her out the door... just not fast enough... I'm not sure about the guy on the side thing, but last I heard she was engaged to a 50+ year old banker... Character flaws aside... She was very good at what she did...
That's an ab solutely hysterical story! I can't believe that chick is EVER going to be straight with you again ... Later, JJ
I haven't been on ET for awhile, but in reading some of these comments, it seems bitterness and expectations go together. A friend of mine in NYC won't get married again. He wants to find a woman he hates and just give her a house. Understand what a person is after before entering into a relationship, NOT how the other person is making you feel. Attraction is not trust. That's the procreation plan, not the financially secure plan. Marry when you can give it all to the other person because you want to see them taken care of and same for the partner. If I am financially secure in life because I was smart enough to earn it, and fell in love with someone who wanted me to sign a pre-nup, I probably wouldn't be worried about my financial future and my sex drive would be awesome. There's no point in being with someone if you are worried about trust, money or cheating.