The loneliness of success

Discussion in 'Psychology' started by Smart Money, Apr 20, 2011.

  1. Hey guys.

    I have an edge. Put away your argument about whether there is such a thing as an edge or not...but my point is that I'm now consistently making money in the markets. Decent money, and while it is not as much as I thought I'd make when I first started trading, it's still enough to make the kind of wealth I'd like to have. Right?

    Well here's what sucks about it. Its the lonliness of it. Don't call the suicide hotline on my behalf because it's not that bad, but it still sucks. I have a friend that I trade with who I collaborate with. I also have my wife to talk to. But in general, it sucks not being able to talk about it. I don't feel like I can tell my friends or they will have their hands out, or they'll think I'm bragging.

    How do some of you successful traders cope with the fact that you can't really talk about any cool moves you made in the market, or boneheaded mistakes, or your progress, etc. Yeah...we have E.T., and I'm damn thankful for that, but I'm talking about outloud. Does it bug you not being able to talk about what you do compared to your friends who have a day job who talk about their day at work? Man, I'm busting with pride at what I'm doing and where I'm going, but I feel I have to keep a secret.

    Anyone care to share?

  2. Buy a dog.
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  3. buy stuff :)
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  4. When people ask me what I do, I tell them. If they ask what I make, (which I find disrespectful) then I say that I make enough to pay the bills. You may find people resenting you if they find you are getting rich sitting at a computer pressing buttons. :)
  5. MGJ


    Depending upon your level of desperation, this might be helpful -- or not -- . . . .

    It's a formal manifestation of an informal idea: get some trading buddies
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  6. caliabc


    Read 4 hour work week by Tim Ferriss
  7. I understand where you`re coming from, but it`s not a big problem for me.

    My closest friends know the work I`ve put into this and I get respect for what I`m doing. I do try to keep exact details about my trading out of our conversation.

    To those friends and relatives who are not really close, I honestly don`t care about sharing anything in particular with them. I might just as well tell them that I work on the garbage car, no joke, I really don`t care :)

    Writing in the ES-journal, probably to the annoyance of many, is my outlet during the trading day.

    Sigh. What would I have done without ET :)
  8. emg


    u sound like a 3rd party educational vendor
  9. WS_MJH


    Congrats! Feel good and just enjoy life; you've earned it.
  10. No way! Get one from a rescue org or the pound.

    #10     Apr 20, 2011
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