http://www.americanthinker.com/blog/2006/07/perus_amazing_shoeshineboy_pre.html for those who have never heard of a shoeshine boy becoming a President ... interestingly in one of his personal interviews he never came across any humiliating circumstances as a shoeshine boy. Now , you can find plethora of humiliated under laughter shoeshine KIDS who did not get any psy help, and many of them turning criminal and violent.
basically, gelotophobic people have gone through psychological trauma. As adults, their hurt and reactions are all about replaying the childhood trauma. Now, if a gelotophobic person is too coward to go and get help, I agree with the coach : let's laugh at the adult, and only stop when the adult get help. . No way, we will accept, escuse or justify his cowardiness - as shown through violent outburst, anger or any other expression of their trauma programming they are refusing to cure, but are willing to dump on anybody who laugh with high mockery at them! LOL. Get help. Psychological trauma : why one really needs to see a psy : "If clinicians fail to look through a trauma lens and to conceptualize client problems as related possibly to current or past trauma, they may fail to see that trauma victims, young and old, organize much of their lives around repetitive patterns of reliving and warding off traumatic memories, reminders, and affects." Clinical psychiatrists are p-r-o-f-e-s-s-i-o-n-a-l-s who have trained to cure people from the effects ( conditionned behaviour ) of traumas. Reading a book / watching a film... to avoid them is no use : these pro already have read what you read or saw your films, and still they took advanced training on your type of problem. Don't be a COWARD : get help. As you now, I will gladly join the crowd of laughter AT the coward shying away from getting help . And please lady, please keep humiliating and ridiculing with as much laughter AT any "king crimson" ugliness. LOL. The person refuses to get help, so it is fair game. LOL. GET HELP. <iframe width="640" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/hB_W8K9-YiU" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
Now I am asked to look in detail at the feelings of shame ( gelotophobia related) and the relation to violence. Please note that a clinical psychiatrist will explain better and approach the matter better.
Here we go. The feeling of shame and humiliation are very painful : they can be overpowering and intolerable. It is like being slighted , or being insulted, or being insulted, or being dishonored, or being disgraces, or being disdained, or being slandered, or being treated with contempt, or being ridiculed, or being teased, or being taunted , or being mocked, or being rejected, or being defeated, or being subjected to indignity. These refer to feeling of being weak, feelings of being ugly, inadequate, or being incompetent, or being a failure, or losing face. Basically it is overpowering and intolerable because the person feels as if one is insignificant , and also worthless. This is a HUGE pain they carry. And this HUGE pain : they will try and CREATE FOR OPPORTUNITIES to experience these again... till they GET HELP.
Now what will clinical psychiatrist do : get them to STOP hiding their shame. Getolophobic people are masters are hiding their shame, and believing that somewhere when - as KID - they were savagedly abused and ridiculed and humiated under laughter they had something to be ashamed about. Not as adults, but as kid, their unconscious , believe as kid they had something to be ashamed about. Adults, they might brag and look courageous, ... but all is smokescreen! The abuse they went through can typically be describes as off the scale and horrendous. They went in childhood through a great injustice, were victims.... and the horrendous crime they went through, they will play it out again and again, trying to solve the psychological issue "through life". Many times only on the death bed do people realise - hence the "if I had known". Also, due to the childhood victimisation, the person has in fact ZERO self-esteem nor respect. All the bravado, outburst, anger are just a mask. Now, gelotophobic people react angrily as adults because their feel the conditionning/programming they received in childhood : they lost their self-esteem and respect , and need to hide that at any cost. But on the other side, search for ways to process again the traumatic experience, hence will create opportunities to be humiliated, ridiculed and laughted in the most painful way. This is what they love - aka this is what they are conditionned/programmed like a computer running a software. Only clinical psychiatrists understand all the aspects of how a victimized child process the victimisation, and how the victimisation is played out as an adult.
Also, gelotophobic get their programming/conditionning done when small kids, so they have no idea of how badly they get programmed/conditioned. Again, clinical psychiatrists train for a reason : the human mind is very complex. So only these type of pro can really go with you through all the things you need to know about how to process in a "productive way" your childhood victimisation.
One aspect here we are discussing is the aspect of the kid wanting to HIDE the pain of the victimisation. One can try to hide the pain by "hiding" , or by "attacking" anything that point out that the pain exist. Shame evasion through fear or through attack : these are the two modes adults then get programmed/conditionned. The aim being to HIDE A good clinical psy will remove that, and make the adult realise and get the subconscious realise that it is the adults for their criminal act on victimising a child, and the kid should be the one shouting it loud for all to know and get the adult accountabme. Intellectually that sound easy, emotionally only a clinical psy can help one do that. This is why the clinical psychiatrist is useful : they know how the mind work, and this work will involves analysing caretaker/cultural background as well. It is not a work one individual can do on its own. This is a job for highly trained specialist.
The clinical psychiatrists - because during their training have access to brain scans, body physilogical changes, etc... will also when working on all the aspects of the initial victimisation, release the neurological ( brain) programming that occured then. Amateurs do not know about these things, these professionals know those things. One has no idea how the brain ( neurons, etc...) can have been damaged during these victimisations, clinical psychiatrists know these and work with these information, and know how to get the neuros connected properly. Do yourself and the world a favor : GET HELP.
Really refusing to get help is similar to a child having a car accident when small, nobody help him for whatever reason, the kid grwos up and cope as he can with the effects of the accident. Because the person has never received any help, the person moves through life with a lot of malfunctions. Now science progress and there are experts who can repair the situation from this accident and the person refuses. Then the person is even offered free sessions, and the person refuses, bust still want respect. Come on : the adult deserves all the ridicule out there, seriously what cowardice is that? I am really laughing there : so we should respect a coward ???? hahahahhaha LOL. Too coward to get help ???? Man, we are all exploding in laughter now!!!!
Oh man, the thought of going through that really scare the cowards psy: "so you felt real pain?" patient: "no I am too fragile to go through that. boooo. No I don't want to feel again the shame. boooo , no I am too coward to feel it there." LOL psy: " do you want to cry?" patient "nan I am a strong man, hihihihihi they just beat the shit out of me. booo, but I 'll do everything not to cry and feel so weak... booo no I am too coward to go through the hard work of dealing with managing my emotions. booo I just want to hide ... I learned shame and want to hide... booo it is easier to attack so that the shame stays hidden" LOL psy:- hmmm so it seems the hypothalamus got damaged.. hmmm may be the patient needs extra amout of this specific minerals that can be found when walking in a forest... but the patient seems to have deep issues ... "Yes I can understand. But take your courage" patient: regressed into childhood mode "nan I am strong. I know everything. Don't you know what they did to me, so I do not need you" LOL.