Seing all these videos of teenagers/kids/toddlers/newborns being savagedly bullied and/or beatten , really is making me sick and it now make sense that understand my coach's sayings "be nice to every assholes, because each one is fighting a hard battle". Basically they have not worked on themselves, aka worked on overcoming their unfavorable experiences during childhood.
Could someone going through this in childhood : <iframe width="640" height="360" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/qbO04u_YRyM?feature=player_detailpage" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> later on has these type of behaviours : "being unpredictably violent because they are disappointed and/or frustrated with their lives. When they are feeling humiliated or hopeless, they lose control and seek revenge for the mistreatment and deprecation to which they feel subjected. ... These violent behaviors are revealed through tantrums, fearsome attacks on others, especially family members, and uncontrollable rage. ... suddenly feel threatened in a certain situation and shock others with their abrupt changes. While the violence that is released is almost always directed at someone, it mainly serves as an emotional release and a way to get out all the feelings they are holding inside themselves ." Apparently yes. This is why it is a very good idea to find out from family any "childhood physical abuse", and that the person got serious help from professionals.
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Now I understand violence. A person who is severely maltreated from his earliest years-subjected to constant psychological and physical abuse, will grow up with a malignant view of life. To such a person, the world is a hateful place, where all human relationships are based, not on love and respect, but on power, suffering, and humiliation. Having been tortured by his earliest caretakers, he will, in later life, seek to inflict torture on others, partly as a way of taking revenge, partly because he has been so psychologically warped by his experiences that he can only feel pleasure by inflicting pain-and, in the most extreme cases, only feel alive when he is causing death. Violence is really a proof that one needs professional help. In a way, I am starting to understand that criminals/violent people are "made". Our best help for them is to make sure it is not easy for them to fall into the manifestations of their psychological issues, and to "encourage" them to seek real professional mental help. Their violent personality is a result of childhood traumas, and they are simply not helping themselves by delaying help.
Now I understand that violent people, and criminally inclined people are kind of stuck emotionally at a particular moment in their growing up. Violent people particularly have experienced violence at any moment from conception, to toddler age. So it is not really their fault they became like that ( ), but it is their responsability to get help , and their best friends are obviously those encouraging them to get professional HELP. It is OK to take as many psy as possible till one finds the one that works for a specific trauma. . If a trauma is not dealt with, one only replays it over and over again as the lesson embedded in the trauma is not really learned. So best to get HELP.
Improving means working on oneself Improving means working on one's trauma(s) Improving means live and let live. <iframe width="640" height="360" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/0714IbwC3HA?feature=player_detailpage" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
So found 1$ equivalent . I am delighted by the free money. And interestingly my batch of trades to check the max var risk gave some free money as well.
So got some feedback on how horrendous these videos were about physical child abuse. Indeed, these make one to think hard about violence. And seriously before using violence, always first get as much psychological help as possible. The first proponents of physical violence seemed to me people who are bully for whatever reason. Even political fighters - traders do keep up to date with news and specifically one great man's health - thought of it twice before using violence. For individuals, violence is a proof the person needs real and intensive psychological help. Now we know that : physical child abuse ==> adults that are violent and abusive themselves. Luckily, one can take responsability to help oneself and learn to cope with difficulties in more "civilized" ways.
This leads us to revenge trading, or losing control and starting to trade with anger when things go badly in trading. I went to a forum when one said that when he loses a lot it is because he feels angry at his losses, and want it back and get into revenge mode. I asked : "were you beatten when you were a toddler or a kid ?" Unfortunately, his answer were not constructive - he became very angry and aggressive - , so I left it to that. So let's look at revenge trading. I am glad ET is here to look to all aspects of trading psychology.
" It happens to all of us: after a bad loss based on a sloppy decision we just canât stop that building up poison inside of us. Anger and revenge makes us make some more sloppy trades and in couple of minutes the trading account in empty and you cannot stop yourself from shaking! Controlling your emotions is almost EVERYTHING in forex trading. No reliable strategy will save your from self-destruction if you donât learn how to control that wild monster inside you... Angry trades will not only make you not see clear, but also try to hunt down the possibilities to make the lost money back right away. Revenge is a powerful motivator. It is so controlling that it often clouds our rationality. The worst part of it all â in most cases you donât even know you are engaged in angry trading until you are completely broke! How can you stop feelings of revenge against a bad trading decision? "