The behaviour I observed of : - lies and manipulations - jealousy - envy - desire to rob - desire to manipulate - strange "joy" with an expectation of a blank check - dishonesty are just natural behaviours from "haters". And just mean that the person is doing something right. Really unconventional way to see things.
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I wish I had been informed about this say 3 years ago! I would have known how to handle things in a better way. I have to thank this coach for bringing up these psychology/spirituality themes.
How to identify haters Every normal person have some people who hate him. Haters come in two different kinds, the least dangerous ones who express their hatred directly and the more dangerous ones who express their hatred in more subtle ways. Because the second type of haters sometimes act as friends its very important that you learn how to spot them and single them out. Its very important to note that the signs i am going to discuss in this post must all be present together before you conclude that someone hates you. Most of the below signs can be done by normal people under certain conditions but if they all appeared together then there is a big possibility that the person doing them is a hater. Signs that show hatred 1) won't compliment or congratulate you : One of the hardest things to do for a hater is to compliment or congratulate someone that he hates. Even if he did it once you will find that the way he does it is very different than the way others do it. While most friends will congratulate you warmly when you do a great job a hater will barley be able to do it 2) body language signs of sadness when you succeed : When you do a good job or when you reach one of your goals a hater will be unhappy with the result. While listening to your story the hater might touch his nose (A body language sign which shows that a person doesn't like what's going on) 3) He won't laugh at your jokes : Even if you said something really funny a hater wont be able to laugh at it unless he fakes a smile. This also extends to not liking your Facebook status or pictures. A hater won't like anything that you post even if it appealed to him (see also How to have a sense of humor) 4) He will bad mouth you : Not every person who talks about you in your absence is a hater but when a person talks about you in such a way that motivates others to hate you as well then certainly he is a hater. (see Why do people talk about others) 5) Will want to know your news : A hater will always want to know about your progress in life just to make sure that you are still suffering. You might find him asking too many detailed questions about you just to get to know whether you are happy or not 6) Will display content when he finds you unhappy : While listening to your sad story the hater might touch his eyebrows (a body language sign that shows that a person is happy with what's going around) become more energetic or even smile 7) Will try to warn you when you attempt to succeed : some haters will try to act like friends who care about you. Those are the ones who will usually try to warn you when you attempt to succeed in life or do something that they didn't manage to do (see Why do some people put others down) Final words about haters and mean people You must understand that in order to spot a hater you need to find all of these signs and in addition you need to make sure that this person is repeating them over and over. Once you find that person the best way to deal with him is to act as if you don't notice him then use him without letting him know that you are doing so. In my article advice for dealing with mean people i said that you can always keep haters under control by acting as if you believe them while working on your other plans secretly. Whether you like it or not you will come across mean people in your life and that's why learning how to deal with them is one essential life skill that you must aquire.
I now understand why I could not really get this : grew up around successful people in their own rights, only left this type of environment few years before entering trading via unorthodox route. All really makes sense. Now I understand much better why the need to study this belief, expressed in softer way.
Basically, some people felt their nullity and mediocrity in a very very very deep way! hahahahahaha. Had I understood that, man, I would have pressed the matter more: - so you are ugly ? let me laugh louder and organise an ugliness contest! lol hahahahaha - so you are lazy and a gold-digger ? lol. Let me pass some videos about the art of gold-digging to everyone and let us see how you fare. - so you sucks at trading? can't do insider trading, but need to show results? let us show you how to do it! lol man, why hide? why organise these office robberies! for what ? lol. The usb contents must have really hurt somewhere. Ignorance is indeed not bliss sometimes.
The coach is really cleaning up the junk beliefs resulting from some really junk experiences. I think I no longer have this fear of people's negative reactions. About sycophantes, etc... not an issue for me as I like encouraging people I care about to pull their own weight.
I am just finding it amazing that one is in trading and never really bothered to really investigate one's attitudes toward money. This trading is really teaching me a lot.
Very interesting to look to belief systems and mindsets. I realise people have experiences, events. The negative events/experiences create a matrix with two choices: will you use your experience to do bad or use your experience to do good ? It is actually easier to do bad, much much much more difficult and demanding to do good - because to do good in a systematic way means a very deep understanding of human nature. Very few people have this quality - only great people do have this. The rest just talk rubbish about it : they just want to justify their mediocre mindset masqueradng as "human nature is..." let's go and do harm blah blah blah . Those who understand duality gets it very easily. Now I am starting to understand why it is important to really listen to what a person says , as it reflects what they are deep down. So let's see what experiences can be linked to "money is a burden" .