I guess this notion of total responsability would have been hard for me to accept few months ago: I'd have said - " I never asked for these type of monsters to show up in my life" - "I have never been in the hookers/pimps industry , only seen it on tv or in cinema, so how on earth am I responsible for a demonically possessed prostitute to show up around?" I can now understand why the coach just kept silent. But now, I understand better what it means 100% responsability. My first responsability was not listening to my intuition and realising when something looked strange, that I should have immediately taken the appropriate measures - aka police, investigative journalists ( for some reasons these people are less easily corruptible), legal advice, and better psy. My escuse was I had no idea these existed. But now I realise these were just escuses : when one feels ignorance, best to take good advice. So yes, now I take full responsability for not having dealt properly with the 3 clowns as soon as they showed up.
And actually, now with clarity and distance, seriously, what one thinks one is dealing with when hookers are around ? No matter how they try to mask it - escorts or "girlfriend experience for xxx $" or whatever else "better" names.... : criminal world, aka organised criminal world. So indeed the coach is completely right about 100% responsibility : if your friends/tenants are into hookers, why do you think you will not be in the line of mire of these criminals? These people are looking to "expand" their business, looking for healthy "hosts" to use and long or short term damage. Parasites by definition like taking "home" on healthy hosts. lol.
I have also developed a much deeper respect for people wo earn an honest living - no matter the job. Even more for people earning their living in difficult jobs ( policemen, cleaners, etc... ). They work so hard for so little money, and still they have more honor than any of the clowns.
I remember watching many years ago in kyoto a cleaner taking care of one main street, so much time and minutiae to remove by hands. I simply could not understand what it meant to do a job, any job with a sense of inner satisfaction of a job well done, no matter what the job is. And there was a time, I dreaded doing my trading prep. Now, I am glad to be spending the necessary time on every detail. lol.
I guess the coach belive in total responsability, as himself had to take full respinsabilities. From losing tons of weight, to getting off his laziness to build his business ( not in coaching, but technology! ) and make good bucks, to working on himself to be extremely physically and mentally very attractive, to working on his own psychology to be very discerning. So really it is up to each person to do their own work. No escuses really. 100% responsability. If one is a junk person - inside or outside - sooner or later one gets junk. just a question of time. So I am glad to be working on any aspect I need to work on.
Now just getting to book my flight to this sunny place. Ah the beach, the sea and the sun and only people I love around. .
very interesting this 5Euro/night hotel. I was a little suspicious... actually a good reason they could not give the hotel name before the booking : they want to fill it hahahahah but without people who paid full price knowing of the discounts offered. lol. I'd have thought high end services were immune to the crisis, looks like not true. Be interesting to have a chat with people there on the ... economy.
ahahahaha when I think some people would sell their soul for that!!!! If not for my volunteering, I'd take a one month offer. lol. Selling their soul for stuff and places they could get at 5Euros/day.
nearly finished dealing with some admin this morning! I am so glad that there are these low cost airlines, oterwise for the short tiem there, the 5euro/night 5 star place would not be worth it. lol
I am still really getting fully comfortable with the notion of 100% full responsability. Obviously when faced with problems, the first reaction is to claim, "I am a victim", blah blah blah. It is someone's else fault blah blah blah, and not look into one's "contribution" in letting the problem develop, or even better not doing better prevention. aka being pro-active.