School cancels prom over lesbian flap

Discussion in 'Politics & Religion' started by Clubber Lang, Mar 11, 2010.

  1. Lesbian teen back at Miss. school after prom flap

    JACKSON, Miss. – An 18-year-old Mississippi lesbian student whose school district canceled her senior prom rather than allow her to escort her girlfriend and wear a tuxedo said she got some unfriendly looks from classmates when she reluctantly returned to campus Thursday.

    Constance McMillen said she didn't want to go back the day after the Itawamba County school board's decision, but her father told her she needed to face her classmates, teachers and school officials.

    "My daddy told me that I needed to show them that I'm still proud of who I am," McMillen told The Associated Press in a telephone interview. "The fact that this will help people later on, that's what's helping me to go on."

    The district announced Wednesday it wouldn't host the April 2 prom. The decision came after the American Civil Liberties Union told officials a policy banning same-sex prom dates violated students' rights. The ACLU said the district not letting McMillen wear a tuxedo violated her free expression rights.

    McMillen said she felt some hostility toward her on the Itawamba County Agricultural High School campus.

    "Somebody said, 'Thanks for ruining my senior year.'" McMillen said.

    The school board issued a statement announcing it wouldn't host the event in Fulton, "due to the distractions to the educational process caused by recent events."

    The statement didn't mention McMillen or the ACLU. When asked by the AP if McMillen's demand led to the cancellation, school board attorney Michele Floyd said she could only reference the statement.

    "I guess they would rather do that than what's right, what's constitutionally correct," McMillen said.

    Same-sex prom dates and cross-dressing are new issues for many high schools around the country, said Daryl Presgraves, a spokesman for GLSEN: Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, a Washington-based advocacy group.

    "A lot of schools actually react rather than do the research and find out what the rights of these students are," said Presgraves, who was preparing to facilitate a discussion about anti-gay bullying at a National Association of Secondary School Principals meeting.

    The school district had said it hoped a privately sponsored prom could be held. McMillen said if that happens, she's sure she'll be excluded.

    "It's a small town in Mississippi, and it's run by an older generation with money. Most of them are more conservative and they don't agree with it," she said.

    Fulton Mayor Paul Walker said he supports the school district's decision and knew of no private efforts to host the prom.

    "I think the community as a whole is probably in support of the school district," Walker said of the town of about 4,000.

    Itawamba County is a rural area of about 23,000 people in north Mississippi near the Alabama state line. It's near Pontotoc County, Miss., where more than a decade ago school officials were sued in federal court over their practice of student-led intercom prayer and Bible classes.

    A couple of students had different reactions to the decision.

    Anna Watson, a 17-year-old junior at the high school, was looking forward to the prom, especially since the town's only hotspot is the bowling alley, she said.

    "I am a little bummed out about it. I guess it's a decision that had to be made. Either way someone was going to get disappointed — either Constance was or we were," Watson said. "I don't agree with homosexuality, but I can't change what another person thinks or does."

    McKenzie Chaney, 16, said she wasn't planning to attend the prom, but "it's kind of ridiculous that they can't let her wear the tuxedo and it all be over with."

    A Feb. 5 memo to students laid out the criteria for bringing a date to the prom, and one requirement was that the person must be of the opposite sex.

    Presgraves said his organization hears about school districts that prohibit same-sex prom dates and gay-straight alliance clubs at schools. He said those kind of policies are detrimental to gay students.

    "It sends a message that these students shouldn't be treated the same," Presgraves said.

    This is fucking bullshit. Why should 99.9% of the kids have to miss out on their prom due to one girl?
  2. hughb


    They're not missing out on their prom "due to one girl". They are missing out due to one district made up of people who will not tolerate anyone who is not exactly like they are.
  3. Good point although I didn't think so at first but really, schools have become social experiements to the umpteenth degree so now they back down?????

    Ahhhh, we are going to teach tolerance and diversity & respect but whoa....

    a lesbian going to the prom.....what kind of message are we sending if we allow that?????

    Maybe one day the BOE will include reading and writing maybe throw in some math at school.

    Schools aren't even good babysitters anymore, too many days off.
  4. Why punish everyone though?

    At the very least, when the prom was cancelled the lesbian should have gone to the principal and backed down from her battle out of respect for her fellow friends and schoolmates.

    I'm sick of everyone having to pay for the problems of a few. The other kids did nothing and they're getting punished.

    Fuck that.
  5. 151


    She didn't really want to go to the prop anyhow. She and the ACLU are just fishing for a lawsuit and they got out played.

    If the girls had really just wanted to go to the prom all she had to do was keep her mouth shut and wear a dress instead of a tux.

    The fact that she didn't back down from being the only female in a tux proves her intention was not to be able to take her girlfriend to the prom, but to cause trouble.

    The South is full of Gay and lesbian people. They live perfectly normal lives and many hold high ranking positions in private and public sectors.

    They also keep their private lives private and do not make selfish demands that end up hurting larger groups of people.

    This girl could easily have had a great night at the prom with her girlfriend and all the other students.
  6. aegis


    Mississippi. What do you expect?
  7. hughb


    They didn't have to punish everyone. They didn't have to punish anyone. Let her go to the prom with whom she wants. No one in the school would have been harmed. That would have been my decision were I in the shoes of the school superintendant. The school district made the wrong choice simply because they do not like this girl or her girlfriend.
  8. Why didn't that girl just concede and let all the other kids have their prom?

    Fucking selfish (like most liberals)
  9. hughb


    If the students, or even any one student, could demonstrate how they would be injured by her attendance, then she should have conceded and forfeited her privilege to the prom.
  10. Why should the students have to demonstrate anything? They have NOTHING to do with this. They are innocent victims.

    Her battle is with the school board.

    When the school board ruled to cancel the prom, she should have conceded.

    Only a selfish person would allow all the other kids to get screwed.
    #10     Mar 12, 2010