One thing about self belief is certain. If you truly believe you can do something, you may just do it. But if you believe you can't, you certainly never will. It's better to try and fail, than to never attempt something. If you never try, you never know and you just end up living an empty life. At least if you give something you're best, be it a success or failure, you can hold your head high without regret. If you fail, you take that experience and use it positively in your next life chapter. And eventually you'll succeed at something. Without that attitude though, your just wasting space on earth. Runningbear
Let go of yourself and accomodate her. Without thinking be shaped by her. Thats why you bannanaheads can't find what you define as success, its always about you first! Wake up from this state of illusion - she does not care about you, is under no obligation to serve you, she dosent think about herself while taking your money, and even the biggest players are no more than a pimple on her ass. You want to find harmony in this game then eliminate yourself, you want to find discord keep thinking about yourself... Its in action, not thought, that mastery will be found. Rogue great post! PEACE and good-speculating...
Okay anything you say. Your posts just fooled me into thinking that you haven't done anything in the category of work or hard work. You are giving me the illusion that you have no foundation or that you can't settle down and build from some base of thought and good balanced emotions. You just fooled me. Do not worry about it.. I must be wrong. I sure can't identify with your viewpoint and I like to think I am in the groove.
I will tell you what CONCRETE means in principle : it means DO FIRST and then THINK AFTER because as I use to say action precedes concept or conciousness (see Elderman's book I mentioned but even before reading Eldermann that's the principle I have always applied since very young), and once you have acquired a new little knowledge then inverse the process THINK FIRST and then DO AFTER (which could be viewed as RENTRANCE process in the vocabulary of Edelman). Then at next stage reverse again DO FIRST and then THINK AFTER, after consolidating your knowledge THINK FIRST and then DO AFTER etc, etc, etc. that is called the spiral of progress - and if you have some knowledge of Quality Management this is called the Deming Shewart wheel PDCA acronym of "Plan Do Check Action". When you DO before THINKING of course the result will not be great but you will be confronted to experience and (try since it is not easy) to extract significant patterns. The transformation is done during the thinking process if you don't think about facts the facts will stay as useful as noise. For example when I post generally I don't think - it's like automatic writing - I think AFTER I have posted so sometimes (if not frequently) the result is not very good and is just useless verbiage hee hee . That is why I use post as brainstorming. I can post about something, someone will contradicts me and that will give some new ideas - I keep for myself for most time. That's how the idea of my model emerges: it is by posting on forums a few years ago.
I figure the only way to reach accord with an indomitable will is to bend to it. I go into the flow and come out with it. I have found there is much strength in weakness. Belief in myself is superflous when I'm in my place -- serves only to stiffen my ego. Just my experience so take it for what its worth... PEACE and good-speculating...