The power of now says that there is only fear or love and that shame is simply a type of fear. Some say that ego itself is simply a reflection of fear. It is great fun to hunt for reasons, emotions, beliefs, puzzles, thoughts etc. but it is more productive to just put those away and see what happens. Focus, attention, flow etc. is one way to put those away. Trading is great fun ( at least for me) but it is not our purpose for being where we are.
From my memory of the Power of Now (may be wrong): .... Enlightenment is the end of suffering is the simple definition of the Buddha. But what's left when there is no suffering. He is silent on that, implying that you will have to find out for yourself ..... The I is in the beholder, but beauty is not. Great posts Tonkadad.
I am sleeping lighter and lighter and I think it is due to my cortisol level. Good stuff, thanks for posting.
StarDust9182 I know there is many "favor" regarding meditation, etc... However, a major flow of many of these is lacking in people experiencing "morality and ethics" or Sila. This is why the www.dhamma.org one - residential - is different , as the understanding of this Sila is really key for behavior modification. A "problem" behavior occured because someone failed on the "moralityðics". Quiet difficult to explain , but this is why I do not bother with any meditation teaching that does not contain the "Sila" pilar. Can you imagine being able to follow these basic codes on a day to day basis ? " to abstain from killing any being; to abstain from stealing; to abstain from all sexual activity; to abstain from telling lies; to abstain from all intoxicants. " But without experiencing the effects of these basic principles, I do believe one can not gain the full benefit of the personal change that meditation brings.
Regarding "Shame" : I have to say that I did work quiet hard with one of the psy on that one. And I'll say, there is always deep/profound reasons for shame. It is a very delicate aspect of psychology.
I don't know much about Sila or Buddhism. I imagine that there must be many ways to go with no one method favored. I am told that while the Buddha practiced asceticism for a period, he didn't find enlightenment within those practices. Is that statement true? For me, these beliefs involve judgments and not forgiveness. Judgment simply helps create more mind objects. And I aim for fewer mind objects to learn.
A very good read - thanks for that. It isn't life or death when we are by ourselves but body language, staying with your emotions until they subside - this is part of getting good. You need awareness that resides somewhere inside your body. I get a sense of tightening in the chest and a shortening of the breath. It's not unlike watching price action unfold. You can't get price to move where you want but you can observe and if you stay just with that - you can see clearly.
I had seen the second one and watched the first. I am not surprised by the results. I think the buddhist monk who Oprah interviews nails it. You have this little crying baby that is your core self. You need to handle this baby gently. No matter how much it acts out you reassure it that you love it unconditionally. Eventually the crying subsides. The baby - even though it doesn't understand your words - is filled with a sense of love, of being worthy of love. The love isn't conditional - the mother has no expectations for the baby's behavior and the love is there always.