Children are your lasting legacy in this world. Long after I am 6ft under my (future) kids will carry on. If not for kids life is kind of pointless.
I respectfully disgreee with you. your children might not inherit your values. The legacy thing is something of an utopia. Your legacy is what you did with your life, not projecting your wishes on somebody else's life,Your children are not you.
You have to be kidding. At the very least children carry their parents' genetic material. If raised properly in a loving environment they will have a good chunk of your values. Plus raising them will bring many good memories. Of course if you have a daughter like Paris Hilton you might as well shoot yourself.
All I will say is this: G Boa gave you the real deal on the general process for how you protect yourself as with the introduction & execution of the agreement which will play heavily into the contestablity of the contract. This is probably the most important thing with respect to validity. Next you will still want to set up some sort of asset protection structure, just incase she does not want to sign or if after things turn sour you lovely fiancee turns into medusa. Lastly, and probably most important to your relationship is to seek out a counselor or minister [who has counseling credentials] and try to discuss ANY lingering issues about yourself [herself], each other, and to define a clear way that you will handle disagreements and most other issues. It is amazing how a third party can change they way that you both look at the relationship. It really helps with getting us as men to look beyond the physical relationship and basic comradery with our mates into a more soulful partnership; conversely, it helps women to look at themselves and take responsibility for their actions and appreciate HOW men express their love on a daily basis that may not be manifested in romance novels. This will also augment and/or take the place of seeing how she interacts with family, specificly parents. Whoever it was who said look at her mom was 100% correct, not because it is a guarantee for how she will be have, but because her emotional foundation is rooted in that so she is likely to revert to similar behavior in times of crisis -- or force herself to do the exact opposite. Each of those mindsets come with a set of vices and virtues; a few visits with a counselor can get those out in the open and help you to develop a game plan for dealing with them. This will obviously hold true for yourself as well. I know it sounds cliche [and I am sorry to any of our sister traders], but it is SOOOOOO necessary for many women in american society to take responsibility for emotional output as well as day to day tasks. That means meeting us halfway on the communication thing. Specificlly, staying away from destructive language when trying to communicate to any of your loved ones. American society is struggling with trying to obtain this higher level of being, much of it being manifested in dating/marriage, with everyone trying to find a soulmate. And there is this human tendancy to belief that if you ever feel as if you're really "connected" with someone, that it will remain that way all of the time, for every issue no matter what. Well, guess what -- that never happens, at least, not forever. So what do you do? you have to listen to one another -- both what is said and unsaid -- but work to not take dramatic license with it off into some unknown direction, which will usually be governed by you're own insecurities. And this is takes work. You can't abandon your own needs, but you can't subjegate your mates either [for that matter your kids too]. Needless to say, a health [mind, body, and soul] successful trader with a great marriage and relationship with his/her kids has almost zero time for anything else -- really. We are often aware on some level that the women in our lives are doing more than we ever will know to attempt make things work, but it is often wasted energy because it is not from a perspective or communicated in a way we understand. Everyone would do well to remember that. There is one other much simplier solution: Start an incubator fund, & turn your wife into a trader for you fund. Much simplier, you will develop a common bond, and whatever she makes you let her keep like 80 percent of the profits, splitting the Managment fee, only taking the 20% of the performance fee for reinvestment. Use a conservative multi strategy approach, mostly ETFs for long-short sector rebalancing, 1 or 2 nice preferred share positions, with some options thrown in to capitalize on events and she will think she is Benjamin Graham! If she leaves, F it, let her liquidate the whole thing she earned it!
or a Gay son nothing against gays, but it's genetic suicide. Just look around yourself, many many parents have done the impossible to have good kids, and yet they're extremely disappointed in their offspring. I suspect we're from 2 different age groups, I'm in my 30s, and for my generation, marriage is the biggest scam for successful men. It's just not worth the risk. Life is not what it used to be, long time aog, wives were devoted to raising children and taking care of their households, it's no longer the case.
I browsed through that website and had a few laughs. They even try to sell you a "manual". Now why would I buy anything from a website that looks like it was made by children in kindergarten?
This pretty much sums it up: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=svt06ZJHieo If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you A pretty woman makes her husband look small And very often causes his downfall As soon as he married her and then she starts To do the things that will break his heart But if you make an ugly woman your wife A-you'll be happy for the rest of your life An ug-a-ly woman cooks meals on time And she'll always give you peace of mind If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you [Sax solo] Don't let your friends say you have no taste Go ahead and marry anyway Though her face is ugly, her eyes don't match Take it from me, she's a better catch If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you [Spoken:] Say man! Hey baby! I saw your wife the other day! Yeah? Yeah, an' she's ug-leeee! Yeah, she's ugly, but she sure can cook, baby! Yeah, alright! If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you
Amen to that! But the trifecta is the beautiful bookworm who feels ugly on the inside. Why do you think people have fantasies about librarians & secretaries?!?!?!!!!!!! Even Sarah Palin's appeal is basicly that she has that Librarian MILF look!