exactly. Ed Seykota said you get what you want out of the markets. Perhaps most people get what they want out of life and relationships. Children seem to respond like little investments. The more you strategically put in (not money - but time, thought and love) and manage the more you get out.
you may be right. I was mariied 31 years, and 25 of those were the most unhappy of my life. I tried everything I could do to save the marriage, and when she finally left I was devastated and had a complete mental breakdown. First thing I did was get a girlfriend and that was another 2 years of unhappiness. Now I am alone trading, I have two pets, red worms and a possumn, and I am almost ashamed to admit today I am happier than a pig in shit (which is what she always made me feel like.)
I married my best friend and have been married for 8 years now with 2 kids. I have a seemingly perfect life yet every day I wake up I cry and want to shoot myself. The hard part about getting married and starting a family is that you don't know what kind of person you'll be 5 and 10 years down the road. I anticipated becoming more mature and embracing the responsibility of having a family but it never happened. I'm the same greedy self centered bastard I was 8 years ago and now all I feel is resentment. I know my misery is all my own fault and I plan on getting medicated so hopefully I can make it through the next 5 years in some sort of trance. I'm thinking once the kids start school and I can have some taste of freedom again and I'll be happier. Who makes more and who does what around the house has never been an issue. My wife is a Dentist so she makes more than me most years but I brought huge assets to the table and paid off her student loans. If you think the person you want to marry might be a gold digger and you still want to marry that person you need to look at yourself and wonder if you are just seeking drama. Someone mentioned getting married is the biggest decision you'll make but I think having kids is. If you care about being a good parent and raising respectful children it makes the stress of trading seem nil.
All these people complaining that life is shitty yada yada yada wouldn't have had a chance in hell any time before the 1900's when life was 10x harder. Stop looking at what you DON"T HAVE, and start looking at what you DO HAVE.
jinxu Registered: May 2010 Posts: 443 08-20-12 07:09 AM I am a young single woman, I plan on being very successful eventually and I would definitely sign a pre-nup. I think a pre-nup protects both parties in the event of a divorce and I would want to show respect for the hard-work my spouse did before I was even a thought in his mind and vice-versa. this is a 1st for et, a woman marrying another woman, a possible gold digger. be careful . women are known to be more bitchy to each other then they are to men.
wow... I resented losing my weekends at first. Plus my wife was always talking about family time. Which meant repetitive trips to the zoo or legoland. taking up my Saturday and Sunday. Not sure how old your kids are but start moving towards a good family hobby. A golfer said... you like golf... start taking the kids... pretend you love it... they will want to play golf then when they love it your wife will be on board. I now walk 9 with my 3 of my 4 kids 3 to 5 days a week. Truly some of the best advice I have heard on this planet regarding families. and in line with the ed seykota quote above. If not golf... motorcycle racing, hiking camping etc.
There is a lot of wisdom in this. There are never any guarantees. We just celebrated my parents' 50th 2 years ago. One thing I will never forget is my mother telling me how they were about to end it, but then decided it wasn't worth it to put us kids through that. Now they watch Wheel of Fortune every night and then go for a walk with the dog. Sometimes holding hands. It's inspirational, actually.