I'd say trading is challenging enough as it is. Relationships are challenging enough as well. Trading when 1 person in a relationship (vs a dependent minor)is looking for a meal ticket : well that's a recipe for the disaster in both trading and the relationship.
Almost sounds cliche, but your words are wise old man. There is no such thing as a good 'trader's wife,' unless she has the opportunity to spend enough to make up for the emotional rollercoaster every trader experiences early on in his/her career. There are outliers, however it doesn't sound like your relationship is one of those, no offense.
So you will also make the assumption that most people who contribute to society significantly come from good families, dangerous assumption.
i really cna't stop reading this thread... i've literally witnessed alot of my friends marry.. one or two happily... takes a certain kind of person to get married... Me personally.. i'm not some kind of arrogant masochistic asshole or anything but i don't let girls take an inch.... i make them drive to see me alot of times .. I am a gentleman and pay the bill.. but then ask them how their financial life is going haha... i fuck with them to no end..... i've dated really really attractive women and frankly i can leave it or take it... most of them aren't really good company at all.... and i make sure they know that... i really do believe that feminism and american girl worship has ruined the dynamics between men and women... I attribute my sucess with women to the fact that i very sarcastic.. i degrade them in subtl sarcastic ways..... yes i'm not married.. i'm never gonna bow down to some bitch and just accept the saying "this is just the way women are" i've had many girls want to marry me and i never gave it a thought... frankly i think i've been so turned off by the fact that women lack so much personality, emotional intelligence, and intellectual intelligence i just don't even pay attention to them... this is a typical senario i see my friends get in to.. hypothetical of course.. hey your really cute... girl gives him a nasty look.. (because girls think if you like them thier is something wrong with you, because i think deep down they know they are shit and anyone that would like them has to be just as stupid, that or it writes desperate all over your forehead) something i would say to a girl.. "hey lala land, your up.. ORDER" and then laugh (at starbucks) or anything that is funny that shows how not impressed i am with them.. boom.. they strike a open ended conversation with me, and then stand there and say.. " sooo..... umm see you around?" AND I SAY.. thats so typical of how a girl asks a guy for his number... and then i laugh at her more.. and she says something like.. well do you want my number.... and i say.. well ya why not.. then i just continuelly harrass her lack of intelligence.. and she practially begs me to hang out.. as fucked up as this sounds.. and dishearting it is to me to watch girls react to me this way... its fucking the truth..
the funny thing is, when I started trading ES I really settled down, quit drinking, never went out, walked every afternoon after the market closed, cleaned my screen and all the windows every morning before the market opened and that's when she left (after 31 years.) I think she finally saw what I was like when I was content and realized this was my life and didn't want any part of it. When I was drinking and running around she always had hope that someday I would amount to something.
It really is the ET bar. Not everybody has an opinion on options or corn, but EVERYBODY has an opinion on women. You just watch, after we all get done spending our wad with our sad stories, the only one who will get laid is the quiet and efficient listening bartender. And It may be one of your wives he ends up sleeping with.
yeah, I suppose that is one way to weed out women you'd never want to marry and have raising your kids.
My experience in general with Asian women (my last partner was Asian) is they make very faithful partners. I think she has far more to fear about your suitability.