Marrying for money

Discussion in 'Wall St. News' started by a529612, Dec 14, 2007.

  1. The major thing my wife and I have in common is we can't bullshit each other. I have wide and varied interests, my wife on the other hand is very select and few interests. When I talk to her about a particular subject, perhaps history, she'll usually respond "Why does anyone care about that?"

    At this point I generally retreat and research some other worthless subject to attack her with later. ahahahaha

    This has been going on for years.:D
     
    #21     Dec 15, 2007
  2. JimyJam

    JimyJam

    It's not so much that they're digging for gold (well, some of them are), my man, as it is that by the time you've done the falling in love thing for the 5th time, or the 7th time or the 10th time, I guess they're really just looking to get paid as part of the bargain ...

    ... and yes, ladies do want what they want, and the intelligence (or lack) of guys is in direct proportion with their ability to think with their big head, and not with the little one (however that works out for you :p ).

    Jimmy Jam
     
    #22     Dec 15, 2007
  3. biologically, a love relation of about 3 years makes sense, because that´s the time it takes for a child to become somewhat less dependent, so the man and woman can have their options open again.

    maybe if the man and woman decide they don´t want to look for other options, something nice can grow, but the strong "being in love" from the first 3 year will never come back in my opinion.
     
    #23     Dec 15, 2007
  4. JimyJam

    JimyJam

    LOL, thanks for that. :)

    JJ
     
    #24     Dec 15, 2007
  5. JimyJam

    JimyJam

    Um, all the women I know most definitely know their value in the marketplace (there, I hope that wasn't too indelicate).
    Um, all the women I know are really about themselves and what they want out of life, if it happens to be you, well then you are one lucky man. (Once again, not to harsh).

    JJ
     
    #25     Dec 15, 2007
  6. This is a particularly realistic, truthful, and depressing thread.
     
    #26     Dec 15, 2007
  7. This was sent to me by a fellow trader

    Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful
    (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy.
    I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at
    least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind
    that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think
    I'm overreaching at all.

    Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could
    you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around
    200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get
    me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married
    to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as
    I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I
    get to her level?

    Here are my questions specifically:

    - Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars,
    restaurants, gyms

    -What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my
    feelings

    -Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?

    - Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east
    side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have
    nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead
    gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story
    there?

    - Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment
    banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they
    hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

    - How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for
    MARRIAGE ONLY

    Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest
    way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front
    about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't
    able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a
    nice home and hearth.

    it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial
    interests
    PostingID: 432279810


    THE ANSWER
    Dear Pers-431649184:

    I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully
    about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.
    Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your
    bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I
    see it.

    Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a
    crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you
    suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring
    my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my
    money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely
    that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't
    be getting any more beautiful!

    So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning
    asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation
    accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty
    hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in
    earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

    So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy
    and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense
    to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case
    you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were
    to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's
    as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

    Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So,
    I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful"
    as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to
    believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K
    hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.

    By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then
    we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.

    With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way.
    Classic "pump and dump."
    I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of
    lease, let me know.
     
    #27     Dec 15, 2007
  8. I've read it about 100 times and I can't help but chuckle every time.
     
    #28     Dec 15, 2007
  9. For the first part...
    Women in the less developed world are more direct as in:
    "Sell yourself for the highest price".

    And the 2nd part...
    Women are like little computers crunching every piece of data about you...
    And bouncing it off their friends.
    They are FAR, FAR more calculating about relationships than men.

    There is no need to be delicate...
    About things where there are no rules...
    Like love and war.
     
    #29     Dec 15, 2007
  10. nravo

    nravo

    I recall from my youth how it was not looks but looks and class and charm but all three of those things plus sexual performance/skills that closed many a deal. Just showing up doesn't count. There are lots of things out there that only 5-10 percent of women will do, and when combined with classiness, good looks, intelligence, et-cetera, this complete package makes them able to snag anyone at any income level. Most of these gals don't want to get themselves dirty, though. I know I lived in Manhattan in the wild 80s, dated a bunch of them.
     
    #30     Dec 15, 2007