You're both right. The deciding factor is whether you stay on the floor or get right back up, dust yourself off, and keep trying. This is true of anything.
People donot share failures, its against human nature. However they will pounce on any occasion to shout a boast.
NEVER EVER BUY OPTIONs prior to earnings. Volatility crush itself will create losses. We always sell Options prior to earnings in a safe directionless manner, staying out of the mess.