"Key to spirituality is the deeply held belief that we are inextricably connected." - Brene Brown Ph.D.
"We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us." - Joseph Campbell
"Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love." - Lao Tzu
...And also required...skill, and wisdom and experience, and personality, and character and etc etc. -- No matter how hard you try you can't fit a square into a circle hole. You need reasonable assessment of the situation and self. Some people are more made for greatness than others.