I do not like people

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Jdesey, Jul 14, 2017.

  1. Baron

    Baron ET Founder

    I don't mind socializing as long as the interaction is meaningful. My pet peeve is when I meet someone new and proceed to ask him twenty questions about his life and after he finishes talking about himself for 20 minutes he can't even reciprocate one question back. When someone does that, they instantly go on my never-talk-to-again list.
     
    #21     Jul 15, 2017
  2. Cuddles

    Cuddles

    Haha, I could see myself being that guy you'd never talk to again. I find the probing small talk a little awkward, always thinking "how does this person want to use me?"; so naturally doing the same is out of character. It's mostly the type of questions I get asked in America about occupation, place of origin, etc... They're very "classist" and feels like you're being measured up to be associated with that person based on some social worth by occupation, earning power, or being the pet foreigner/minority/insert unique characteristic friend.

    When it's an exchange of ideas or common interest, then yeah, I can't stop yammering to that person. So I guess this type of conversations is what I find "meaningful" as you put it.
     
    #22     Jul 15, 2017
  3. Moving to a South American country, an apartment in a neighborhood where only middle class Spanish speaking locals live (restaurants are better) and only learning enough Spanish to do the basics helped me focus on studying & trading. It was not wholly intentional, after 15 hours of screen time a day, very little Spanish will sink in I assure you. I have the utility of a city etc. however even if there are occasional drunks shouting in the park near me, it is just noise, I have no mental involvement.

    People are kind here though, gentle folk and very honest.
     
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    #23     Jul 15, 2017
  4. I somewhat agree,
    It's easy to talk about yourself if you're a rich and successful and somewhat perfect person, o_O

    I only hold an Associate's degree -- so naturally, I kind of feel out of place hanging out with people who may hold Master's degrees.

    I remember during the late 90's when I was so into fitness and supplements and health...and it showed too...in my physical appearance.
    I would openly and easily talk to everyone about these topics, and advise them and pry into their life routines and habits,
    In hindsight, now, I must have been and acted and looked like an annoying superior fitness guru,

    But Class Warfare is definitely real and existent. -- Always have, and always will.
    People are naturally judgmental.
     
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    #24     Jul 15, 2017
  5. Baron

    Baron ET Founder

    Yeah, but it's impossible to discuss ideas and common interest with a new person without first getting to know each other via the initial small talk. If that phase flops, then the more advanced discussions will never materialize.
     
    #25     Jul 16, 2017
  6. I think that as long as one makes a good and skilled effort then even a flopped conversation is not a burden. Like a trade, some work, some don't and none do if you don't press the button.

    Many adults meet each other on conversational autopilot, particularly when in a stable relationship. There is a lost art to conversation which can be enjoyable to practice as a skill in itself, getting blood from a stone is a challenge. The wheel turns, we go through life phases but conversation becomes really flabby if not exercised with purpose.

    As an example, a few years ago I had one of those high-end niche IT consultant roles that by the time I had half explai... ah, asleep already. :) Accountant used to be the worst thing you can say, not anymore. Re-phrasing things I found was helpful and bore fruit. When asked what I do for a living I re-framed my work (which I enjoyed) as "I mend broken things". There are several new conversational paths to take from that. Ask them what they mend and what they get paid for or what they fix for fun?

    For me when I can't be bothered keeping necessary human skills fresh, a lot of other less obvious skills atrophy and I pay for that. Use it or lose it..unless you never had it.

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    #26     Jul 16, 2017
  7. Joe_D

    Joe_D





    Me = INTJ

    I can relate 100%. I own no house, no car, no investment property, have no wife, no kids.
    But I have buying power to acquire almost anything on the spot. My #1 joy is to be totally by myself in peace and quiet. Sometimes I can go even 7 full days without any phone or real conversation. I need nobody nor do I need things. I wear a tracksuit and sneakers everywhere I go, couldn't be bothered with suits

    I rent everything I need from condos to vacation villas to cars and this includes Porsche turbos for my annual solo marathon drive from Paris thru' Monte Carlo and on to Sorrento/Amalfi (Italy) into Greece.

    I love good pussy, always have always will and maintain an abundance in this regard, many of whom are from poor families and I support them all financially. Already put 15 young women thru' university and onto the corporate ladder.

    Trader I am, best medicine in existence to breakaway from the CROWD of stupidity inherent in The System and BORING life America, a forlorn desert that's killing itself quick by pc

    See next for why YOU too can accomplish solo Trader life in next post

    Joe
     
    #27     Jul 16, 2017
  8. vanzandt

    vanzandt

    This outta be good.... :D
     
    #28     Jul 16, 2017
  9. Joe_D

    Joe_D



    Yes Sir, yes you can accomplish that lofty goal of full-time Trader - but don't just shoot for the usual daytrader nickel and diming clowns on realtime trading stuck at a computer screen for hours. Go for the really lofty goal of wealth accumulation. Set this goal in your mind first.
    Visualize it, feel it, dream it 24/7

    Then follow this formula - its very simple, yet packs a tsunami punch.

    The Physical Universe has absolutely NO defense against the persistent individual, the fellow who not only does not quit, rather he comes on with renewed vigor after each fall/setback.

    Sooner than later the Physical Universe out of exasperation just simply gives in and the fellow is shocked to find himself drowning in wherewithal as the floodgates open

    Yes it is that simple.

    All manner methodologies for trading will miraculously show up at your doorstep when the resistance of the Physical Universe has been bested.

    Good luck, you have my vote
     
    #29     Jul 16, 2017
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  10. Jdesey

    Jdesey

    Thank you Joe this is the most positive post I've seen yet on this board. For the most part everyone Says how hard it is and I can't be done. Thank you for being a stand out to say It is possible.
    And yes I am very persistent and the universe will allow this to happen for me
     
    #30     Jul 16, 2017