Fuck this is so annoying. My two boys, aged 13 and 8, are constantly killing each other. I am one of 4 boys and so i know what brotherly war waging is all about. I happen to be very close to all my bros in adulthood....But during childhood, there were battles. Physical, verbal, etc.. My 8 year old is firecracker. A Shit Disturber. The 13 year old, who is WAY bigger than the 8, is also capable of setting off his younger brother, but for the most part he keeps to himself quietly... The elder brother can end any fight with a physical pounding on the younger, but he usually elects not to do that. Instead drawing out the battle of wills until one final slap and the younger one comes crying. My new take on the whole thing is that when they start fighting, I just leave the room. I won't be a party to this bullshit. I won't intervene, I won't declare good guys or bad guys. YOU SORT IT OUT YOURSELVES. When I told this to a friend, who is a psychologist, she told me this was a poor way to handle it. And I should be intervening. Anyone have any thoughts/suggestions on this?