I die when I'm alone too long. I get on facebook and see all these inspirational posts by introverts.. I feel like replying "seriously, this shit is supposed to recharge my batteries?" but why ruin their "fun" [do introverts have fun?] I can stay home only so long and then it's "i gotta get the f^*k out of here and meet some people before I go stir crazy...
INTJ and a virgo as well It has taken me years to become more sociable. Small talk to me is still a waste of time but I have slowly conditioned myself to do it because I come off as an selfish person without it and don't like hurting peoples feelings even though I often end up doing it often from being overcritical and expecting perfectionism. It's not that I don't care about others and their feelings, it's just that I am programmed to get the point and don't see the need for superficial bull$hit when communicating. I work best alone and don't like being disturbed when I am in my zone. Expressing my emotions is a serious flaw and they stay embedded deep within me which often causes misunderstandings in personal relationships.
When I'm on a walk or about to pass someone one on one, I'll say hi to everyone I pass because I feel more awkward if we just pass each other in silence. I've never been one to start random convos in the line at the grocery store although I'll engage in one if talked to first. My grandma could tell a random janitor at the casino her life story in 5 min flat if given the opportunity. Some people just like talking in general like that.
During the week, I'm pretty much home with my dog trading unless I need to run needed errands. On the weekend however, I try to get out all day if possible. Go the park, out to eat with friends or family, shopping, etc. I don't know if you'd call that socializing. I do not network very often.
some are too judgemental and critical(myself),that characteristic makes one miss out on life, i like to go out and meet happy people,hear laughter ,to offset it.. was good when daughter was growing up, to be around children helps to stand outside of yourself and take the same look at self as you do others and to get an honest perspective on yourself other than the one coming from the mirror, life's too short....i find that mindset necessary for trading, and it can consume you, but it doesn't transfer well to happiness, try not to take one's self too seriously , always make an attempt at that as a rule
Three year ago I started forcing myself to start a conversation with someone I don't know, and do so each day, repeat their name four times an hour for eight hours. Now it is out of habit I still do it, each day. Now I can have a conversation and feel completely at ease doing so. And surprisingly can remember so many people from three years ago. Can't remember what I ate for breakfast but I remembered four people out in the street today.