do you know how to deal with this situation...

Discussion in 'Psychology' started by Genevian Speculator, Apr 17, 2020.

  1. im with ib and it was my fault beacause the stop limit order had the smallest possible gap between auxiliary and limit price
     
    #11     Apr 17, 2020
  2. smallfil

    smallfil

    Stop Limit Orders are not the same as a Stop Loss Order. A Stop Loss order becomes a Market Order when hit and usually, executed immediately, at the next available price. Stop Limit orders once, triggered becomes a Limit order meaning the broker is instructed to sell it at that price or better. If the stock price is going down, that order will not get filled for obvious reason.
     
    #12     Apr 17, 2020
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    Good points;+ mr Miguel=take a break, can help.[Rich Dennis told jack schwager= ''get your head out of the mixer when you get beat up'']
    Personaly, I hate any kind of loss ; but realizing they are a business expence/business expence helps.
    WHAT really helps me= trade smaller.
    Easy to add on to a liquid winner/swing/position trade. I seldom trade single stocks anymore, so usually a loss mean the main trend changed...…………………………………………………………………………………………..+ in that case it takes time/take a break to confirm that major trend change.
     
    #13     Apr 17, 2020
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  4. volente_00

    volente_00

    Scared paws syndrome


    Lower your size until the loss doesn’t matter


    Say u normally trade 1000 shares with a $1 stop


    Drop to 100 shares with same stop

    and then from there scale back up over time.


    Hell drop it to 1 share but you have to reprogram your mind that losing small is given if you want to succeed in this long term.
     
    #14     Apr 18, 2020
  5. Andrea Wylan

    Andrea Wylan Sponsor

    I agree with the comments. My addition, especially if there is fear in taking small, low risk trades, it to start doing work on PROCESSING FEAR. Especially now during this time when there is so much fear in most people!

    Processing it means letting yourself feel it. Not trying to run from it or fix it or ignore it, but actually go into it. Let it RESIDE in your body.

    It is a process to learn how to do this, but it REDUCES fear in the body over time and makes trading much calmer. I work with traders to learn / use this tool for great results in their trading, and I have worked with it for a few years myself. I am a different trader now!

    Do you ever feel like an addict chasing trades, etc? One time I even went to a gamblers anonymous meeting for help! (Wasn't a good fit.) But addictions are an effort to get away from FEELINGS. If you go INTO them instead, and work this process, over time it changes everything.

    If you can TOLERATE a feeling and not have to act on it, you have your choice back. i.e. you are able to wait for the correct setups without acting based on compulsion, but instead based on your trading plan.
     
    #15     Apr 18, 2020
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  6. Excellent idea! Confront the fear instead of avoiding it. Thanks for the post.
     
    #16     Apr 18, 2020
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  7. minmike

    minmike

    What is the deal with the random capitalized words? Is there a science behind it or you just pull it out randomly from emphasis? I feel like I have seen it somewhere before.
     
    #17     Apr 19, 2020
  8. ironchef

    ironchef

    Often it is not the broker but the market gap down.

    It happened to me at least twice, once on AAPL the other time on FB. I remember the AAPL case distinctly. I bought the stock at $540 (prior to the 7:1 split), I just read the book by O'Neil telling his reader to put a -8% stop on stocks so I put a stop at $500. One day the stock gapped down to $450 and I was stopped out at $450. Never got back in after that.

    After that I stopped putting automatic stops on my holdings.
     
    #18     Apr 21, 2020
  9. bulls95

    bulls95

    Take a break definitely and then come back stronger with the mindset that everything will be alright, trust yourself.
     
    #19     Apr 21, 2020
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  10. rider20

    rider20

    That's a quite positive approach.
     
    #20     Apr 22, 2020