Step one is to assess your banking account set-up and what she has access to. If you are both have access to joint accounts, cards etc. Watch your arse. You may wake up some morning after you have been getting nasty with her to get her to move and out and find that she has moved out- and oh by the way- she took every frigging dime you had in your joint accounts. And as long as you are legally married, you are legally responsible for her debts along with her. You dont want some broad living off on her own racking up bills willy nilly that you are jointly responsible for- especially when it includes expenses from those trips to Aruba that she has been taking with her new boyfriend. It is possible legally to tidy that up. It is called a "Separate Maintenance Agreement" which is approved by the court. It allows a couple to remain married but to have separate management and responsibility for their own expenses. It is also known as "a Catholic's divorce." or used to be back when Catholics would not or could not divorce but wanted out of the shared financial responsibilities. Don't make it too complicated though. Figure out what your end goal is a move toward it as efficiently as you can. It is going to suck. You cannot tidy it up completely. Just be thankful that kids are not involved, hopefully. That makes things complicated-er and complicated-er and painful-er and painful-er. Women tend to have car accidents too when they are going through stressful times. Make sure she is not on your shared policy.
hey thx i didnt know that.. great tip re separate maintenance agreement" +1 i'll look into that... am cancelling all joint debit/ccs... good idea re separate car policies.... she's moving out of state so will probable uber... right no kids... smart tips, thx guys https://www.halliganllc.com/divorce/legal-separation-vs-divorce/ https://cossittfamilylaw.com/divorce/separation-agreement-colorado/