Spousal support? Why would there be support, say you have no kids between them and living in an apartment, he could maintain that since his name is also on the lease, he would remain there till end of the lease, and if he has to move out, he has to get an apartment and spend more as she will have to continue the lease. He didn't say if she was not working, she might actually be making more and she would have to pay him Spousal support. But cheapest and if still talking, sit down and come to an agreement before lawyers really bleed you dry.
It sounds like you've adapted to the current dating environment well. Guys, he's repeating verbatim what noted Sheryl Sandberg, a noted feminist, says in her book "Lean In". What's good for the goose is good for the gander!
I guess so. Not my woman. Mine comes first before money. I met a few other married ladies that had the same issue. One tell husband only satisfy her twice a month. He was always busy making money. That's crazy. But she didn't wanna divorce him. Just wanted instant gratification.
I was you at a point in my life. Until you actually experience a divorce, your outlook won’t change. I don’t hate women, but will never prioritize one again.
Ending up with the gardener is NOT the only way that a wife can destroy everything that a man has worked has worked his a$$ for. And honestly cheating is the way that a woman can hurt a man the least, I find. If she is cheating, at least she's found another person, another "goal in life" that she's ditching you for and she's actually not that keen on clawing every single penny out of you to get even and doesn't rest until you are completely hung dry. No the WORST kind is the "scorned wife" kind, the kind that believes that she's given her "everything" to you and the marriage and at the end, you are treating her like s*** because of your work, your trading, your whatever, leaving her empty and your life is going up and up and better and better. One thing you need to remember about women is: The BIGGEST thing that women, especially western women (now women in wealthy cities elsewhere in the world too) cannot stand is their closest person being happier than them; they just CANNOT stand it. When it's stranger, she accepts it because she doesn't know them but when it's someone close to them, whether it's her friend, bff, her husband, her sister, her colleague, her neighbour who she THINKS is happier than them, that's what she cannot stand because I dunno maybe because she thinks she knows them and according to what she knows, she feels they don't deserve to be happier than her, especially her husband, somebody that she feels that she's sacrificed everything for. That's when she will be on a mission to destroy you to make you as unhappy as her. It's sad, very sad. So word of advice on dealing with women especially living with them: Always try to make her FEEL psychologically happy and appreciate her. I know it's her job to be happy but helping her to feel happy still makes sense. DON'T GLOAT too much about what you have, whether it's health, wealth or just the fact that you got up and just feels great. No, ALWAYS complain about something and something that is not going well, you are not feeling well, you are not doing well...Give her gifts with words of appreciation but celebrate with the guys you TRUST.
I am sorry to here about your divorce digitalnomad. I like your comment "I don’t hate women, but will never prioritize one again"
JSOP, Everything you said is correct. I will add here, you have to treasure your woman and make like she is the prettiest woman on this earth and tell her this. Here is something I see alot from women and why they start not liking their husband. The Husband physical appearances changes. The husband gets fat, stop working out!! Big NO NO NO. Always stay in good shape, this way your woman knows you are marketable. Grow a beard or something. Kiss her in public. make her feel like the most precious jewel in the world. I can say this with complete confidence, no woman will never leave me. And I mean it. She would be crazy to leave me. And I would tell a woman this. Every word of Bobby Womack song below is what you gotta do.
based on what you said if you can handle a woman's complexity it must be very easy then to handle the complexity of Mr. Market.
Your life goal is very noble, @SimpleMeLike, but I agree with @nooby_mcnoob, being happy is a state of mind and is NOT something that you or anyone can make it. You cannot MAKE someone happy if this person is perpetually unhappy. You can try all your best your whole life, and many men do but if she is not happy whether it's her choosing to being that way or because of some other issues, there is nothing you can do and it REALLY is NOT fair for the other person to sacrifice his whole life, his own well-being to be in the bottomless pit of perpetual unhappiness that she is in. There is only so much that a person can help the other person. Ultimately it's that person who has to decide how to live her life. And I further agree with @nooby_mcnoob, marriage is a partnership and is an equal partnership that requires BOTH partners to be in it and put in their equal weight. It doesn't make sense when one of the partners is always sulky and always thinks she's getting the short end of the stick. Trading is a VERY stressful endeavour that takes the ENTIRE person's concentration and being and leaves very little for the other person. And sometimes "putting in your weight" means understanding the challenge of trading and not perceiving the other partner's lack of attention as a sign of neglect. If one really cannot stand the lack of attention, then she's happy to leave the marriage.