jinxu, please don't listen to anyone telling you to get married. There is no rush. None. If you don't see the benefits, do not do it. Search this thread and you have not read one person saying anything fun about being married or it well worth it. I honestly, don't see the point in marriage, especially if you are wealthy and your spouse is not wealthy.
I am American, and I can honestly say you are right. If you not making a bunch money, don't move here
Just wanted to share something different about marriage and divorce in different regions from the US/Europe. Let's look at many third world countries and Asian countries. Their divorce rates are lower compared to the west (which is about 50%). Here are the possible reasons: 1. Patriarchy. Patriarchy is labeled to be a negative word, I believed that's how the westerners perceived it. Actually patriarchy civilizations are stronger civilizations as compared to a feminist civilization. I have never heard of a feminist civilization before, probably because they never lasted? Probably Rome is one of them? When males take charge of the households expenses, and the wives take care of the housework and the kids at home, it forms a better society. Asian kids tend to listen to their parents more and they fear their parents compared to the western kids. Most will talk to their parents respectfully and will never call their parents by their names. The moms will teach the kids to love the fathers and respect their fathers. Some feminists will teach their children to hate their fathers. 2. Feminism. The media and certain parties are pushing feminism in the west and it is spreading to other regions. It has also affected some city women and men in Asian/3rd world countries. However, it is not as widespread as the west. Women in Asian countries do not scream for equality, abortion rights, etc. Women think from their emotions. Today they might love you but tomorrow it is not yet certain. Their emotions fluctuate very quickly and they do not know what they actually wanted. With the current women empowerment movement, they are more likely to file for a divorce whenever they see fit. 3. Alimony. Wives in most Asian/3rd world countries are not entitled to half of the husband's equity. So, there's no incentive for the wife to divorce the husband. Unlike the west, the wives would divorce the husband to get half of his properties and spend on her 'promiscuous' lifestyle. 4. Marriage is a scared thing, not a contract. Asians see marriage as a sacred thing and it should not be broken. Your family and your partner is a partner for life. Of course unless things get really messy then there's no other choice than a divorce. The internet and social media is a double edged sword. Sadly, these leftist/feminist values have been brought to the Asian/3rd world countries and have poisoned the younger generations. They are brainwashed. Someone has to do something to revert the society back to their traditional values, by not oppressing women. Feminism and women empowerment movements have done more damage than good to family institutions.
World War. There is nothing like the danger of imminent annihilation to put people in check and kick them back into reality. Past civilization worked because they had to be strong when other civilization were trying to wage war on them. Hahaha.
There is nobody there to regulate the family court. It's really become a business for the greedy with no regards to the well-being of everybody. They claim that they are looking out for the best interest of the children but I see the ultimate victim is really the children. Children are not going to be happy when BOTH parents are not able to resolve their conflict fairly and satisfactorily. It's really hard to fathom how can they calculate ability to pay based on income that is not guaranteed? What if you are making average losses? How do they calculate child support on negative numbers? What if you have a regular day job and one day you got pay cut, what you can't apply to the court to get the support payment re-adjusted accordingly? If they can do that to regular day job income, why can't they do it to trading income? I think people in general just have a very misguided understanding of trading. All they see is the glory, the windfall, the flashy cars, the blings, and they think we are all picking up gold from the pavement here, what they don't see is the sweat, the stress, the countless hours of analysis and the data studying (all those hours that those spouses complain of neglect), the ulcers, no they don't see any of these. When you work regular day jobs, when you are sick, you can take sick days. When you are a trader, there is NO sick days. You can be having 105 degree fever but if you are in a position, you still need to be there and trade. The market doesn't close just because you are sick. And people don't understand that and courts refuse to see it.
So I guess you earned considerably more than your spouse? Good for you!! Don't worry all your ex got was stock money which she will one day spend on those Madoff schemes and lose every penny of it. LOL What you have is a perpetuity really because you know how to trade and you can always make more out of what you have. I agree the most challenging is the child support; it's like an extra tax that there is no way you can stop it. Supporting your children until 25 is RIDICULOUS!! You are old enough to get a job. WHY do you still require your parent to support you? I agree that children of divorced parents shouldn't be entitled to more than what children from an intact marriage have. This is more of a spousal support all "in the name of the children". Seriously how much cost would children still require after their teens?
Really? I always thought it's so much easier to trade electronically. All the orders are instantly executed, no more jostling, shouting, getting spitted on, pushed and shoved, yelling and all the information is right at your fingertips. There is actually advantage of trading in the pits? How? I am just curious.
Maybe, but I'm coming to the conclusion that the current divorce laws are the real problem and much more so then finding the right women. If the law could just be simple as go get married and if it doesn't work out then just agree to a 50% split and go on your way, then marriage would be something that is worth considering. But nowadays, the more I read about it the more it looks like a high risk low reward bet. Because at 50% win it's close to gambling.