Yes FREEDOM is priceless for a man and is worth everything that he has especially when he has an endless mean of earning whatever he lost. Good thing he's still healthy and still kept his independent spirit. Most of the men by his age would've already been bogged down by this ailment or that or have already grown dependent/accustomed on/to the wife that they pretty much stay in. Moral of the story: ALWAYS take well of yourself.
Because you may not be confident that you can earn back your fortune a second time. The state will block you from seeing your kid. While they require you to pay for that kid, as 30% of your pre tax income. Insane. Escape, keep it all, avoid child support (which is rarely spent on the child).
OK and if you don't earn back your fortune, so what? Are you homeless? No. Happiness in life comes from acceptance of your situation and dealing with it, not avoiding pain. The fact is that you got caught up in a shitty situation is a confluence of your own bad decision making and what society has deemed appropriate for broken families. That being said, the state these days will usually not block you from seeing your kid **even in the case of alleged or true domestic violence**. Many states are defaulting to shared parenting, joint custody. The days of high conflict divorce are now only dependent on high conflict people and the science says that if you married a high conflict woman, then guess what? You dug your own grave. I married a high conflict woman, and divorce went pretty much as expected. 6-7 years of court, multiple agreements not adhered to (by her), etc. etc. This is the tax I paid for making a mistake many years ago. We've been divorced longer than we've been married and it's still ongoing in various ways. You see, high conflict people cannot fathom that no one wants to be with them, they believe the other party must be wrong. I have maintained my freedom to do what I want, and yes it has cost me a lot in dollar value, but there is no situation I can fathom in which I cannot go anywhere, rent a room for $500-$1000/month and live out my life in peace, running every morning, hiking every weekend and generally just enjoying life. No this is not ideal. Ideally, I would have no restrictions on my future success, but the fact is that compounding is difficult if you have to constantly access capital to defend against the latest accusation in court. I also like to travel. A fortune is less important than living the live you want. What good does $10,000,000 in the bank do if you can't enjoy your life anyway? Or if your kids are unhappy?
Your ex-wife sounds like my ex. I'm more sympathetic towards mine because my psychology background allows me to understand the mechanism behind her behavior. However there is the story of the scorpion and the fox crossing the river.
My kids are grown and married. My wife and I have a 40 ft motor home with slideouts so it is plenty big for us to live in. I like fishing. The wife like walking..hiking..I like traveling. My wife does too but she also likes the psychological stability that comes with a home. So, we have a home. And a motorhome. So, we can travel for months at a time. Been to many places in the USA most people only read about. When my wife gets a hankering to go the house and to visit the kids and grandkids well it is no big deal. Pull the slides in. Fire up the diesel engine..hook the tow vehicle up and off we go. What helped is I told her when we are in the motorhome you just have to make a psychological shift in your mind. Just pretend the motorhome IS your home. MENTALLY accept that it is your house for the time being. We can be on a trip go out sightseeing ..go..to eat and get tired and head back to the motorhome and getting in we both can “exclaim it is good to get home..I’m tired.” When you find yourself doing that without thinking about it ..well you have made the psychological paradigm shift. The motorhome IS home. We don’t have to find hotels..reserve them..hope the room doesn’t smell of chemicals and deodorizers..bed is comfortable...ad nauseum. We know the environment of the motorhome and it becomes a safe haven. It is much cheaper than staying in hotels. Depending on the state and the campground and the amenities we can stay for a month for $250.00 to $1000.00 all utilities included. I don’t need alot of money. Thank goodness we don’t have to strive for all that BS couples work for all their life and fight about. We are both quite frugal. She doesn’t need alot of money either. I need money for fishing worms and crickets. Money for diesel fuel. Money to eat a good ribeye once in a while. Money to buy her some jewelry, clothes, and shoes when she gets a hankering to buy some. She is actually quite frugal. Happy with small things. Just a great wife! Of course I am the boss..the head of the family ..she knows it and I know it but she is the neck that turns the head ROFLMAO. We enjoy life. Comparing oneself to others is a dead end alley. There is a happiness that is found in enjoying the moment..sharing..giving..being thankful and grateful for all the blessings in life. We live once then we leave and fly away.
40 years in feb this year. I was 22 she was 20 when we met. I met her because her 1976 baby blue Nova quit runnng at an intersection in the highway. My two brothers happened along and helped out a damsel in distress. He was on leave for a few weeks from the military. I was in the yard washing or waxing my Honda 554 motorcycle when up they came. The damsel stepped out and smiled. I immediately liked her. We all went dancing that night (back in the days of the discotecs). I worked in a grocery store. She came in with her smile. So i walked over and asked her out on a date. She said yes. So I picked her up at her house and off we went on the motorcycle to dine at Red Lobster. So our romance began over some seafood and wine at Red Lobster. Right at six months later i proposed. She said yes. We were planning a big church wedding. But decided, ourselves, it was going to cost too much (we were paying for the wedding as she was the baby of the family with a slew of sisters so her Dad and Mom just didn’t pay for weddings). Anyway, I called a preacher I knew and he said meet me over at George and his wifes house... on such and such a day. So we went early, fixed things up, brought a boom box with Debbie Boon singing “you light up my life”. We invited guests. Preacher shows up and is taken back as I don’t think he expected so many people. So, the wedding starts. We had already bought her wedding dress so she walks down the hallway while “you light up my life” is playing. We got married and rode off in the baby blue chevrolet Nova with cans banging and streamers flying. Feb of this year was our 40th anniversay. I bought her a nice diamond ring as our original wedding bands got stolen several years back. We received i think some good advice shortly after our wedding. Basically, it was don't end the day and go to bed at night at odds with one another. Fix the problem ..the disagreement..before going to sleep. Wake up the next morning with a new day! I will admit there have been a few times (but not many) we didn’t follow that advice. But almost always, without fail, upon awakening the next morning we fix the problem.
Volpri, Stop being stupid man and playing around. You know exactly what I mean. I'm the boss and lion in my house. They don't boss me, but it's my responsibility to make sure the overall happiness and safety is secure. We don't talk about no ice cream and stuff. I'm just saying that divorce stuff is for weaklings. I can walk up to a fine woman right now and tell her be with me and she ain't going nowhere, and she will say ok. Real men just don't think about that divorce. I own the woman, not the other way around. She my property for life. And that's the way I think. This is clear upfront.
Was she a virgin when she met you. Most likely you are not her first, and wont be her last either, you are renting her not owning her.
I’m not sure I follow here. So basically, if your wife sucked every cock within a 25 mile radius, while you worked 16 hours a day to make ends meet for your family, you wouldn’t think about “that divorce”?