Let me ramble and rant for a minute..... All my life, since being a little kid, I've sat on the sidelines and for some reason I like to observe peoples behaviour. One thing I've noticed is frequently there are some who can't sit still for 5 seconds, they dart their head around, move their bodies, twitch and always looking for something to do. They have lots of physical energy. Possibly your self sabotage is because you can't sit still, you have a restless spirit. Just a thought.
Thanks for the thoughts and tips, but it's more about sudden inexplicable lapses. Maybe self-sabotage is in me 100% of the time but lately I've only been able to repress it 99% of the time.
It's very possible I have a restless spirit, relatively at least. Doing this for me takes a lot of constant concentration on a lot of things and sometimes I just have to take the train off the tracks, even though I can't always step away and do it.
I found your question interesting, few years ago felt the same way number of times. Here what IA had to say about it... Self-sabotage refers to behaviors or thought patterns that hold you back from achieving your goals or living up to your full potential. There can be various reasons why people engage in self-sabotaging behaviors. Some common reasons include: 1. **Fear of Failure:** People may self-sabotage because they fear failing at something they care about. By sabotaging themselves, they can avoid the risk of failure and the associated feelings of disappointment, shame, or inadequacy. 2. **Low Self-Esteem:** Individuals with low self-esteem may engage in self-sabotage as a way to confirm their negative beliefs about themselves. They may not feel deserving of success or happiness, so they unconsciously undermine their efforts to prevent positive outcomes. 3. **Comfort Zone:** Stepping outside of one's comfort zone can be intimidating, even if it means pursuing something desirable. Self-sabotage can be a way to stay within familiar territory and avoid the discomfort that comes with change or growth. 4. **Lack of Self-Confidence:** People who lack confidence in their abilities may sabotage themselves to avoid situations where they feel exposed or vulnerable. This can serve as a defense mechanism to protect themselves from potential criticism or judgment. 5. **Perfectionism:** Striving for perfection can lead to self-sabotage if the individual believes they must meet impossibly high standards. This can create a cycle of procrastination or avoidance, as they fear not being able to achieve perfection. 6. **Past Trauma:** Previous experiences of failure, rejection, or trauma can influence self-sabotaging behavior. Unresolved emotional wounds may lead individuals to engage in self-destructive patterns as a way to cope with their pain or protect themselves from further harm. 7. **Lack of Self-Awareness:** Some people may not be fully aware of their self-sabotaging behaviors or the underlying reasons for them. Without introspection and self-reflection, they may continue to undermine their own success without understanding why. It's important to recognize when you are engaging in self-sabotage and to address the underlying issues causing these behaviors. Seeking support from a therapist, counselor, or coach can help you develop strategies to overcome self-sabotage and work towards achieving your goals.
I think this is a great explanation, excellent post, thank you. Your break down should be a part of the trading books, including in The Disciplined Trader, but can be very relevant for people in all walks of life.
Great subject. Great responses. I'm in my 28th year of stock trading, but I've recently had to deal with this since I started trading the NQs, which was originally based on my stock trading entry and exit tactics. Now it is tightly correlated with my stock trading strategy, but the tactics needed some serious adjustments. So far it's working well since I realized I need to combine my micro perspective for entries with a macro perspective for exits. (Macro, for me anyway, is what the market might do in the next half hour or so. Not the next week or month). I actually talked to a counselor about the self sabotage thing, and she reminded me that self sabotage is usually caused by past trauma. (beginner66 had a great response) She also reminded me that she and I had already worked through that, and self sabotage doesn't make sense since stock trading has worked well for so long. Full disclosure: (And this is the first time I have mentioned this publicly) She is a substance abuse counselor I've worked with for a couple of years, and now that I'm finally 4 1/2 months sober, everything she says is taken very seriously. We've obviously talked about many personal issues, but she knows trading is a major part of my life, so it's slowly been integrated into our conversations. She asked the inevitable question of "Why do you think you're successful at stock trading?". I instantly responded with "The stocks I'm trading are up or down at least 2% on the day, trading highly unusual volume, and aren't correlated with what the market is doing that day. And it's fairly easy, after so many years of experience, to back test and find opportunities with my scanner to exploit inefficiencies for mean reversion trades." She had no idea what that meant, but she was simply having me verbally re-enforce my confidence and trust in my own process. And then she said "So you put in the work necessary to be successful"' And I responded with "Yes, and I'm so systematic with my entries and exits, it got to the point where my alcohol abuse only got in the way a little bit". BOOM! That's when the light turned on in my head. I was just winging it with my NQ trading, even in sobriety. I needed to become equally systematic in my entries, and adjust my system for exits so I hold winners much longer. I've been rambling on a bit, but the bottom line is this: Before I enter a trade, I ask myself if I'm going to feel like an idiot if it's a loser. So far this week, I've been able to tell my self "That was a good trade" after every loss. As far as winners go, I've only had one trade this week where I've been able to say it was a good exit. I'm up for the week and the month, but I should be doing much better. I'm still trading stocks as much as ever, but I'll always be a rapid fire trader when it comes to entries and exits in stocks. So it's still a hell of an adjustment to adapt to my new exit tactics in the NQs. There have been quite a few times this month when I've told myself "that was a stupid exit", even when it was at a better level than where my system would've told me to get out. Self sabotage is an easy thing to assume about yourself, mainly because people are so much aware of the idea in recent decades. If you've put in the work, which you obviously have, you just need to make some minor, but possibly difficult, adjustments. You got this. JNB
Thank you, bro, I appreciate it and for sharing. It's great to hear the personal track that you're on. You got this as well! and I wish you nothing but the best. I used to trade only volatile stocks as well then went to NQ and ES, and it for sure is different. I have plenty of thoughts about stocks vs. indexes but don't want to get off topic, but I think becoming more systematic is a great idea. And I love your questions you ask yourself, very solid and affirming.
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