Hawaiian buddy, Lane first said to me last week, "won't work, if you growl at 'em, it will scare them!" My response, "No it won't, they'll love it and go into an instant bullrun" Lane reported to me yesterday, "it works like a charm!" Q.E.D.
AfterLOS, I wonder why my experience with American women is so different than yours? I may have a lot of problems, but attracting beautiful women (from any nationality) is definitely not one of them. Some examples.....
would you say that you find many marriage quality women? even the biggest wealthiest players I've met bitch about a lack of high quality prospects.
A "hot" woman and a "hot woman with wife potential" are 2 different things. Girlfriends and playthings are easy. "Wife", if you care about that sort of thing, is not. (Or, maybe that's just my experience.)
Sure, I meet marriage quality girls all the time. Look, guys try to make women so complicated when they're actually not at all. At the heart of every woman are two basic needs. The first is the need to be listened to. What's really confusing for most guys is when his girl starts inexplicably doing strange things that cause the man to mumble WTF?? Where did that comment/action come from? Women start doing crazy things when their emotional frustration builds up. This frustration may not have anything to do with you. It could be something a friend of hers said to make her feel insecure, or perhaps she's in a tiff with her sister and it's bothering her. These are the times that she needs her first need met. By you asking, "Hey what's on your mind? You seem a little down today.", you've just enabled her to dump emotionally and get everything off of her chest. But here is the key...... She's not looking for a solution to her problems, so don't listen solely with the intent of problem solving. That will only annoy her. All she wants is for you to listen and show some interest in what her current problems are, not fix them. Give her that outlet when she needs it, and quickly she'll turn back into her normal self. Neglect her desire to be listened to, and she will continue saying and doing weird things to get your attention. The second desire she has is the need to feel secure. If you can meet her basic needs in that way, then she will meet all of your needs. The problem is that many guys are looking for a girl who can actually take care of herself. Even if a woman has the ability to take care of herself financially, it's not the optimum scenario for her. Why? Because when she takes care of herself, she's always having swirling thoughts about what would happen if she lost her job, or got hurt, or whatever. But when the man provides his girl with security, it releases a ton of worry and anxiety because now she has somebody in her life that is really stepping up for her. And if she chooses to continue working, she will enjoy her job at a level she never experienced because she knows you have her back no matter what. So the question is not whether girls are marriage quality or not, it's really a question of whether you can meet their two basic needs. If you can, then she'll be everything you want in a woman. If you can't, then you'll be like so many other guys who are either stuck in a bad relationship, remain single, or just date around moving from one girl to another wondering why none of those relationships have really worked out.
Heaven help you guys if your job or life takes you away from the vibrant dating meccas found in big cities and to a smaller locale. No amount of "listening" will compensate for a town whose prospects are bleak to non-existent. Somehow, I feel that there must be a whole lot of other dudes in my shoes. Thank goodness I'm leaving soon.
I would also say that the myth of girls from small towns having values may have been true before the 90s. Now, it is just a myth. Neither are they sweet, charming or endearing by and large.
I glanced over the pics. Yes, I only live an hour and half from you!! lol!! Yep, I do believe I need to come down next time you decide to head out! Lol!!! On a more serious note, I'm back to bodybuilding (7.8% this weekend, dialing down to the low-mid 4's*), and probably wouldn't run off any gals. Italian heritage; outgoing personality; wacky sense of humor, etc., Designated driver as well, since I don't drink anymore! What more can you ask for??!? Jeez! Lol!! * From the pic you posted a while back, seems you're able to stay relatively lean while putting on mass, and can run around most of the time close to single digits. For me, getting down to 6% is tough. Dropping to 4% is considerably worse. Trying to hold low 4's longer than a few days is murder!:eek: Lol! My hat's off to you if you stay year round in what I would call, one month out conditioning. Again, need help with too many females, I'm not far... Lol!!!
Yes!!!!! Agreed!!! When out with a lady, God gave us two ears, and one mouth... Listening is an art form... And the need to feel secure... We'd go on all day about that one, but here's some "odd" evidence to back that. And I know I'll get laughed at for this, but once a guy gets a little more serious with a gal (when she's more likely open to this), put some "nice n comfy" socks on her, first... And before anyone here wants to laugh, I'll even post the myriad of evidence, plus make it easy: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Do women have better orgasms wearing socks?#seen Great stuff bro! And for those who laughed at first at the socks idea, tried it, and it worked well, you can donate to Leap's favorite charity. Lol
I will say, I did wonder half of afternoon: "why would Thailand not allow a non-citizen to leave, who also has children there, and a soon to be ex?" I thought they couldn't be an out of control mess government as they do need tourism money, and if they're an out of control mess, no one would risk going there. That wasn't it. I pondered numerous reasons, and one hit me like a diamond when I asked: "what would I do if I were in government (and since the World sees the country as THE place to come for love, sex, etc.,) and have to deal with thousands of women per year who are now new mothers, and the child's father back in whatever country? Who's going to pay for that? We can't afford it." I can almost imagine that being a possible reason why. None the less, my Son and I look forward to going in Dec. he wants to, of course, look at females, eat the food I can imagine is amazing, see the country, and spend Dad's money, help. I basically want to learn stuff I don't know about my Dad, plus eat the food, and look at places expats like.