My daughter (if I had one) excluded, I see no argument that can be made...... If it were my daughter ( the one I dont have) no argument would be needed ( ruling with an Iron fist; My home that is)......
One is simple logic, the couple will face a lifetime of being ostracized by both races, putting considrable strain on the marriage.
I don't think anyone should abandon someone they truly love, just to have an easier life... There are places where the ostracization would be minimal.
(Hey, I just read your post and I'm thrilled that we finally agree completely on an issue! ) We may agree on more than you know. I'l take my arguement further and say that while its up to blacks whether the n word should be used, the feelings of their parents and grandparents should be considered - personally I think it is disrespect to use it, and if I were black I would not want my kids or grandkids using it no matter what they meant. I would see it as disrespect to who we are. (Name an argument, that the average white person could use, to support their argument that black men shouldn't marry white women.) I dont think it is the place for a white man to say that black men should not marry white women in general. If a white woman (outside his family) chooses to marry a black man, that's her business, not his(the white male observer) As far as inside his family, he is free to consider anything he wishes (and not just race), although he risks alienating the sister or daughter if his judgement is wrong.
I believe this parental argument is basically non-prejudicial as far as racism per se goes. But as stated previously, man has an innate instinct to generally congregate with his own kind. There was an experiment run years ago with grade school children. The class (I believe all white) were separated and grouped according to eye color. The groups were instructed in turn that a specific color was "bad." The "blue eyes" would be negative, then everyone with green eyes would be negative, and so forth. The results were that the non-negatively labeled groups manifested a form of racism toward the group temporarily chosen to be the outcasts.
You started this thread wiht your heartfelt letter to Trent, but let's be realistic.....do you really feel that Outrage toward trent? Can you honestly say you are different? Have you in private ever used the vaunted 'N" word?....EVER? You grew up in the suburbs of baltimore, yet there's a poverty war of killing going on in nearby D.C. ( highest crime rate and death rate amongst black males at one point).....did you parents move to the Burbs by chance or were they in a way segregating their baby axphel form the horrors fo the inner city? Where do you live? Is there a large african American community next to you?...or are you like most white people: You decry David Duke, Trent lott, Jimmy the greek and others, while secretly you are no different in your views...i ll give you the benefit of the doubt on Duke, though because that is extreme.......Do you really care soooo much about the plight of the black man in america that you want to write an open letter to trent Lott?...or are you just blowing crap in the wind and thankful you live in your white winter wonderland and this makes you feel better???
Oh, I think the Aphster has relayed his views quite well: ''Nothing pisses me off more than to read stories of African Americans suing corporations because they were involved with slavery over a hundred years ago." "Also, many of the black slaves were treated very well and were considered part of the family, with many having rooms within the main house."