On kid's birthday my wife crossed the Rubicon. One time too many. She's a spoiled narcissistic fully grown adult with a pea size brain that, in spite of countless requests, petitions, threats, has one and only one guiding light ahead in life: anything coming from me is bad, wrong, evil and must be trampled aggressively. So on my kid's 11'th anniversary, I did the usual routine costing me more than a minimum wage in my country. But since life's about these precious moments, I saved one for later evening when noone was expecting anything more. I bought the kid, without telling my wife, a giant Teddy Bear, even though he's fast approaching teenage size it made apparent the kid-size he still is. And he absolutely loved it. There's one and only one time in a whole fucking lifetime when you can present your kid with a giant teddy bear and make the impact I made. Can't be too soon when he's still a toddler incapable of fully assessing the world around him. Nor too late when he starts being interested in chicks, cars, ca$h. I'll make the kid other presents as he grows up but nothing, NOTHING in this life will replicate the innocent joy on his face when he saw the Teddy bear. There's two smiles on my kid, one for the camera when he gets presents worth more than a minimum wage in my country. And the other, genuine one, that I got from him by throwing half a month's water bill into purchasing a giant Teddy Bear. It's SYMBOLIC THINKING and you have to be moderately intellectually capable to figure out that, which my stupid cow wife isn't. What my wife did with the once-in-a-lifetime moment was launch a tantrum attack against it. In a fraction of a second kid went from exulting joy to fighting for his life. Well, Teddy's life which my wife was threatening to throw from the balcony (symbolically though, my kid's life). There's a saying here: - If you pour a glass of wine into a bucket of turd, you get turd. - If you toss a teaspoon of shit into a barrel of wine, you get shit. Well my wife just took a full, diarrheaous carp into the barrel of wine I went over my head to provide.
So I just launched a full-scale offensive attack against my wife's neverending skirmishes. I'm a nice guy but also compared to my wife, in intellectual and physical resources and uttermost, expendable capital, I'm the Roman Empire versus Dacia. She crossed the Rubic^H^H^H^H^H Danube one time too many.
So why is she still your wife again? Then again, maybe next time you could let her know beforehand when you want to buy some for the child from both of you? Don't need to be a formal request or anything, just dropping a line will do. I mean why didn't you want to tell her in the first place?
We often think our marriage is a certain way in our minds. When I’m reality it’s far from it. We can’t see it when wrapped in the bubble. I was married 18 years with a narcissist best thing I ever did was pop the bubble and start seeing what really was instead of what I pictured in my head. Good luck
Well it was supposed to be a surprise. Who doesn't like surprises? I know I do. All the people I asked thought a giant Teddy Bear is one of the coolest things you can provide as a surprise. I literally didn't ... couldn't forecast that my wife will react the opposite. Who the funk gets upset on a Teddy Bear?
Well it was supposed to be a surprise for your son (which is cool) but not really for your wife so there was really no need to keep it a secret from your wife. You could've still dropped a line with your wife. She's not mad because it was a teddy bear; she was mad because she didn't expect it or probably the cost and thought it was too much. I dunno. Her overreaction is uncalled for I absolutely agree but still wouldn't have hurt to just let her know and just tell her to keep it a secret from your son if you wanted to have it as a surprise for your son. That's what I would've done. If it was no big deal that it was a surprise then it was no big deal to tell her beforehand either. And I would also talk to her afterwards if her overreaction bothered you this much. You guys need to communicate. Tell her how you feel. When was the last time that you guys talked?