Quite an obituary. "Lawrence, Sr.'s passing proves that evil does eventually die," Lawrence H Pfaff Sr. was born in Belmont, NY, on April 16, 1941. He passed away on June 27, 2022, living a long life, much longer than he deserved. He is survived by his three children, no four. Oops, five children. Well as of 2022 we believe there is one more that we know about, but there could be more. His love was abundant when it came to himself, but for his children it was limited. From a young age, he was a ladies' man and an abusive alcoholic, solidifying his commitment to both with the path of destruction he left behind, damaging his adult children, and leaving them broken. Lawrence, Sr's hobbies included abusing his first wife and children. He loved to start projects but never followed through on any of them. He enjoyed the life of a bar fly for many years and had a quaint little living space, studio, above his favorite hole in the wall, the club Nashville. Lawrence, Sr. did spend over 20 years in the NYPD, but even his time in service was negligent at best. Because of his alcohol addiction, his Commanding Officer took away his gun and badge, replacing them with a broom until he could get his act together. Lawrence, Sr. did claim to be clean and sober for over thirty years, but never worked any of the twelve steps, including the eighth and ninth steps with his children, making amends. He possesses no redeeming qualities for his children, including the ones he knew, and the "ones he knew about.” It will be challenging to miss Lawrence, Sr. because he was narcissistic. He was incapable of love. Lawrence, Sr.'s passing proves that evil does eventually die, and it marks a time of healing, which will allow his children to get the closure they deserve. Lawrence, Sr. can be remembered for being a father to many, and a dad to none. Posted online on July 02, 2022 Published in Florida Times Union https://www.jacksonville.com/obituaries/pfla0245589
There is a list somewhere of funny or, how I say, “Critical” headstone inscriptions. Not inclined to search for it right now. Speaking of headstones, we are now a hair away from 8 billion people on this planet. That’s a lot of headstones that will be needed in less than 80 years on average. Might have to tear down some more rainforests to make room. Of course, there is cremation. Other than water, the largest component of the human body composition is carbon, over 12 times more than calcium. So in cremation, one last final “FU” to the planet? Speaking of “FUs”, parental FUs to their chilfren, had a conversation with one of my roommates new girlfriend. Long story short, half a lifetime of pain could have been avoided with some parental guidance. A few words. A principle or two to adhere to. At least her 3 kids seemed to have turned out ok. I wonder what measures of quality of life statistics are between religious versus non-religious households? The woman mentioned earlier is a special needs teacher at a public school. Special needs in her world includes children with emotional issues and learning disabilities, often involving the neglect and or substance abuse by parents. I asked her how effective her program was at helping these children. She hesitated before answering me. She finally said “It helps somewhat”. The children in her charge are aged 5 to 7 years old. She also indicated that it was unlikely for her to make a career out of her current position and cited a recent retirement of a long term teacher who apparently burned out. Once the personality is established in a young mind, trying to change it seems almost futile, with high costs imposed upon society with or without early intervention efforts. The chain of events that brought over 2 decades of pain to this women all started with a small oversight. Perhaps lack of knowledge or foresight on her parent’s part. Just a few minutes worth of wisdom or availability, perhaps,. It seems like it may make sense to require all who apply for driver’s licenses to take classes being a parent? Even those not destined to be parents, but are otherwise F’up, could benefit by helping them understand why their lives aren’t working. While there will never be an obituary for child abuse, including neglect, it seems there is more that can be done than at present,
OK I actually read all the words but.. The point is narcissism is hard wired into the brain the same as psychopathy. It's nature, physical brain structure, unchanging. A brilliant pair of parents can only make a narcissist less bad, never better. You can't fix a narcissist and if you are unfortunate enough to be the child of one, you are just in damage control until they die.
In the TV show, The UneXplained, hosted by William Shatner, a psychologist did a study involving cat scans on his family, including himself. Turned out his brain scan matched the profile of a serial killer, where the scan showed a lack of communication to certain parts of the brain that are associated with compassion. The psychologist claimed he was not a serial killer and used his long, happy marriage with well adjusted children as an example. His conclusion was there are normally several components in making a serial killer. The first one is in the way their brain is wired and the second one is their upbringing. There is often a triggering event, such as the death of their mother, that sets them off. Yes, I understand narcissism and being and serial killer are not necessarily the same things. Knowing you, at least to some extent, your use of narcissism in your response to my post is associated with your thoughts of Trump, my beloved Trump. Not to extoll the virtues of Trump, but he does seem to possess several favorable qualities for a US President given our present situation. By “Present situation”, I mean post Obama. At some level, should you not identify with Trump? At least consider Trump a lightweight version of yourself, given your history as told by you? From rubbing dogs guts, recently killed by you and a friend, in the face of someone with “Gastric juices burning his face”, Firing a gun to get the barrel “Good and hot” before “Literally shoving it up his ass”, to confronting multiple men for looking at your attractive daughter, even with you admitting it would have been natural for those men.to mistake her age because of her height. While you seem be a good father given her academic achievements where you helped with some of her coursework, I am concerned your “Overbearing” disposition may have delayed her getting married. Having children after around age 26 starts to get tough on a woman’s body and cause the baby to be potentially less “Genetically robust” than when born of younger parents. Sometimes one can charge too hard, perhaps. You have frequently attacked and threatened people online who don’t share your political views. Of course, you have your justifications for your actions, but as an example, what specifically was the point in shoving a hot gun up someone’s ass? How does that specific action correlate to the wrong the guy did (Poaching), if I recall correctly? Could it be your behaviors, no mater how well justified in your mind, be worse than the offenses committed? Don’t misunderstand me. I like and respect you. In some ways, you seem smarter than Trump, but he is no slouch himself if we are to be honest. Trump has certainly achieved success in many areas, including developing a large and faithful following. Whether Trump is still the most qualified to be President in 2024, the candidates should all have their chance to make their arguments to the people, as is the traditional practice. It seems you and Trump share certain qualities, not all of them positive. However, you have done nothing that has prevented you from raising a great daughter and Trump has done nothing that would prevent him from being our potentially best choice to save a great country. Admittedly, that last paragraph felt “A little cringy”, but as a “Narcissist”, what do I care? Seriously, changing the status quo often means some toes of obstructionist will get stepped on. Judging by your actions in your life, It seems you’ve felt the same way. Am I right?
Naturally this obituary is from the Jacksonville Florida paper -- a perfect example of a typical Florida man. In related news -- we have not heard from Florida resident @Tsing Tao since June.