Question So, my boyfriend bought a '96 Cherokee (XJ) SE, for way too much, like around $3,000. It broke down and he has put another $2,500 in it and totally rebuilt the engine and did a lot of after market work on it. He has and will do all the labor himself, he refuses to pay for labor. Now, he finds out that the motor needs to be taken back out and fixed again and is looking at another $700. I said he should just sell it and wipe his hands clean, he says he won't make enough. Firstly, what is your guys' opinion on what he should do? Secondly, how much do you think he could make parting it versus just the whole car as is? Thanks for your guys' opinions! Response You want my opinion? Okâ¦ Shut the hell up. Youâre not his wife. Youâre not paying for the repairs. Itâs absolutely none of your business what he does with his Jeep or his money. I know your type wellâ¦ first itâs âSell the Jeep because itâs costing too much money.â Then itâs âNo, you canât go spend the weekend with your buddies because I need you to take me shopping.â Then itâs âOh gee, honeyâ¦ Iâm pregnant. Gosh, I have no idea how that happened.â Youâre a DreamKiller. You kill a guyâs dreams, take away his future, tie him down with a fat mortgage and too many babies, and turn him into just another miserable guy wondering, âHow the hell did I get here?â Do you really want to help him? Hereâs what you doâ¦ go to your local library (itâs a big building with books inside) and check out a couple of books on rebuilding engines. Read them, over and over, until YOU understand what needs to be done. Then help him get that engine out and rebuild it. Tie your hair back in a ponytail, put on some old jeans and get your hands dirty. Hand him wrenches, hold the light, pull the wire connectors apart, help him get the hood offâ¦ help him with anything he needs. When he gets tired, run inside and make him a hot lunch or dinner. Fix him coffee, hot chocolate, whatever he wants. (But NO beer. Beer is for when the job is done.) Then when the day is over and youâre both exhausted from working on the engine, push him into a hot shower and jump in with him. Scrub his back, wash his hair, rinse him off, and dry him with fluffy towels still hot from the dryer. Then push him into bed and screw his ears off. Then get up the next day and do it all over again. Make him realize that rebuilding an engine is a slow and methodical process. Make him realize that every step should be regarded as surgery; every step must be perfectâ¦ perfect torque, perfect fit, perfectly clean. If you run into a step that you just canât figure out, ask for help from someone who knows what heâs doing. Are you cute? Put on a low-cut top, show some cleavage and go (by yourself) to the local Jeep shop, and explain to the guys that you are helping your boyfriend to rebuild his engine and neither of you can figure out this one little step, and do they have any adviceâ¦ Think it wonât work? Think again. We guys love to help cute girls, even if they have a boyfriend. (Hey, maybe youâve got a sister, or girlfriendâ¦) But absolutely DO NOT whine or complain. Do not say a single negative thing. Not a single âOooooo, I broke a nail.â If you break a nail, or cut your finger, or bang a knuckle, you just shut up and DEAL WITH IT. You should be a hopelessly optomistic, never-say-die cheerleader, encouraging him every step of the way. Thatâs my opinion.