Registered: Aug 2011
10-31-11 06:50 PM
Quote from maxpi:
When we recognize the reactions we are having to people it is a great opportunity to achieve peace and a tranquil psychological inner landscape.
Start identifying them, the thoughts that are reactions to what people have done and said. Recently I found that I was reacting to things that were said decades ago and to things that were said today with pretty muchly the same emotional force!
I was reacting to a psychopath whose trail crosses mine at a Pool playing venue. Once I stopped having a reaction to the guy I could very easily decide whether to give up an hour of Pool here and there in order to avoid him and reduce his opportunity at ruining my life [it's not like he has a life or much to lose] or to try to take him on in an arena where the scales are tipped heavily in his favor.. so I play Pool when he's not there and I try to have some ways of controlling him... Reasoning with Psychopaths and all other unreasoning animals with agendas is not ever going to work, that is a reality that one should accept. I don't have the inner argument going on and I feel like a lot smarter and saner person..
I was reacting to things that were said to me decades ago, the rudeness, the overt hostility of it all, it would overwhelm me even though it was just memory... When I have those thoughts now they make me laugh.. but I address them in my mind. I show the person what success I've achieved in having a mind that functions well, in having relationships that are flourishing, etc.. and I compare how polite, prosperous, and organized I am to what a mess they were/are.. and I win the argument [it's nice being judge and jury ]
I wake up unencumbered and ready to engage in the battles of the day every day now..
thank you for sharing.
always, focus, focus, focus.....