I want to break free
I want to break free
I want to break free from your lies
You're so self satisfied I don't need you
I've got to break free
God knows God knows I want to break free
This song says it best.
What a damn freakin classic tune. Pure genius.
Man is polygamous by his raw nature.
Long term relationships are almost always forced by society/religion.
Osho is spot on:
First, you have a misunderstanding about man's nature.
You think, as many people in the world think, that man is polygamous, and the woman is monogamous... that the woman wants to live with one man, to love one man, to devote and dedicate herself totally to one man, but man is different in nature -- he wants to love other women too, at least, once in a while.
The reality is: both are polygamous. The woman has been conditioned by man for thousands of years into thinking that she is monogamous. And man is very cunning; he has exploited the woman in many ways. One of the ways is: he has been telling her that man is, by nature, polygamous. All the psychologists, all the sociologists are agreed upon the fact that man is polygamous; and none of them says the same thing about woman.
My own understanding is that both are polygamous. If a woman does not behave in a polygamous way, it is nurture, not nature. She has been utterly conditioned so long that the conditioning has gone into her very blood, into her bones, into her very marrow. Why do I say so? -- because in the whole of existence, all the animals are polygamous.
I say unto you that both are polygamous. The whole existence is polygamous. It has to be -- monogamy is boredom. However beautiful a woman may be, however beautiful a man may be, you become tired -- the same geography, the same topography. How long do you have to see the same face? So it happens that years pass, and the husband has not looked attentively at his wife for a single moment.
..... As for children, one does not need to be married to have them, and at the end of the day, it's still a luck of the draw whether they end up bringing you pleasure or pain. Some of my friends children I would not wish upon my worst enemy.
Even in the best family, kids can turn out horrible, but the odds of them going bad are a lot higher in broken homes. It is a bit of a luck and the rest is what you put in them.
As for the article, whoever wrote it, probably does not date now. You do NOT need to be on the top of pyramid. I live in NY, and if you just decent looking with some social skills and have a somewhat decent paying job (100K+) , the pool of girls in huge.
Mating lifestyle also depends on population density.
If there is not much people around (think Iceland or Canada), people tend to bond more strongly... esp. when climate conditions are hard and challanging.
Where population density is very high - NYC, Sao Paolo, Tokyo, India, etc. - it suddenly appears it does not make sense to commit to only one person.
Very wise words about freedom...
Is your man a dog that you give him a long rope?
You cannot give freedom -- freedom is everybody's birthright. The very idea, "I'm giving a long rope"... still the rope is in your hand. You are the giver of freedom. You cannot give freedom; you can only accept the freedom of the other person. You cannot keep one end of the rope in your hand, watching the dog pissing on this tree, pissing on that tree.... You think that is freedom? No, the very idea is wrong.
The other person has his freedom; you have your freedom. Neither he needs to have one end of the rope in his hand, nor do you have to have it; otherwise, both are chained. His rope is going to be your chains, your rope is going to be his chains. And you think you give enough rope -- you think you are being very generous.
Freedom is not something that has to be given to another person. Freedom is something that has to be recognized as the property of the other person.
Freedom is such a joyful experience. Your lover is enjoying freedom, you are enjoying freedom. In freedom, you meet; in freedom, you depart. And perhaps life may bring you together again. And most probably.... All the researches about love relationships indicate a certain phenomenon which has not been accepted by any society up to now. And even today, when I say these things, I'm condemned all over the world. When your man becomes interested in another woman, it does not mean that he no longer loves you; it simply means just a change of taste.
