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annaland
Registered: Jul 2006
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08-08-12 11:53 PM
In my opinion, it looks like you are trying too hard. Unless others here tell me that at 24 they were doing serious research and changing their personalities to attract women, I don't think its normal or necessary. In addition, creating an illusion of what others say you should be isn't going to attract someone who will stick around. There is a lid to every pot. Go have fun, be confident and, more importantly, be yourself. Someone will come along.
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masterm1ne
Registered: Dec 2009
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08-09-12 10:31 PM
Quote from annaland:
In my opinion, it looks like you are trying too hard. Unless others here tell me that at 24 they were doing serious research and changing their personalities to attract women, I don't think its normal or necessary. In addition, creating an illusion of what others say you should be isn't going to attract someone who will stick around. There is a lid to every pot. Go have fun, be confident and, more importantly, be yourself. Someone will come along.
You are correct. I was trying to hard. Now I don't try that much for one particular person. That's because even the best players have stated it's a numbers game. You will eventually find someone that will stick around after you have gone through X people already. I have simply learned generally what attracts women, according to many who have many women in their lives. Many of these things I'm reading about I did earlier in my life, when I was in college, but didn't realize I was doing them, and they are the traits of a high value male (interacts casually with women, has many women around him, cool with guys, has a life other than someone else's, etc).
I'm not looking really for just one woman, and I really don't care if a woman sticks around. I don't need anyone to be around me. I can and always have had enough friends.
I have guy friends that I have known since 8th grade. Those guys I'll probably always be friends with. But the women in my life have come and gone (not many). This is the same for most male-female relationships because by nature they are conditional.
I don't know that learing a few routines and stories constitutes a personality change. What I'm doing is learing how to be more interesting, and keep conversations stimulating for others. Once you have enough experience, you don't have to use any canned materials, you can improvise.
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Lucrum
Registered: Dec 2003
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08-10-12 01:18 AM
Quote from annaland:
In my opinion, it looks like you are trying too hard. Unless others here tell me that at 24 they were doing serious research and changing their personalities to attract women, I don't think its normal or necessary. In addition, creating an illusion of what others say you should be isn't going to attract someone who will stick around. There is a lid to every pot. Go have fun, be confident and, more importantly, be yourself. Someone will come along.
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masterm1ne
Registered: Dec 2009
Posts: 797 |
08-15-12 03:53 PM
Update:
Finshed 2 of Paul Jankas books. His style is a lot different than most of the other PUA stuff I've read. A few of the basic differences are: the settings he hits, his forwardness, the time he spends on one target, material he uses, and his general timeline. He is more about numbers and quantity over Mystery who teaches more about spending quality time. I'm talking about time which is relative so... both might be considered to be quantity over quality..
Many of Pauls ideas are basically exact opposite of Mystery's and the PUA style he teachs. I respect both in each regard, and will utilize principles from both. Both tactics are effective.
I am quickly (but trying to refrain from) becoming convinced that this city is just shitty for meeting good single women for many reasons:
1. SA has a big hispanic population. I recently went to sea world and saw all these very young attractive women dragging along children. It was so disappointing. Every woman I checked out seemed to be either too young or have a family. Either way, not for me. Went out to the flying saucer. Every 'decent' girl there had men around her, often times groping/kissing. Though Mystery teaches a lot about 'pawning' sets it's easier said then done. I might need to learn more about how to perform this.
2. Being that many here are military, that cuts out a lot of the people I would normally be exposed to 40 hours every week. Yesterday, an attractive girl came by my office, and when I looked her up, she was an E-3. Perfect. I'm an O-1. (look up fraternization if you are ignorant). I am not the guy to risk financial well being on what will likely be just a fling.
3. Many of my co-workers are married. So on top of them being unavailable to me (relationship), they are also not worth much really in terms of expanding my social circle. People come and go here so much esp in the military that social circles don't seem to expand much more than just immediate family.
I still haven't gone on the date I planned to a month ago. I haven't heard from the woman I emailed. Nonetheless, alpha males don't chase. I sent her two emails, she responded to the first one, and hasn't read the second one. She probably can't access the email I sent where she currently is... oh well.
Even with these facts, I haven't given up. I intend on day gaming when I have time. Going to be tough though while attempting to trade 
I continue to attend social meet ups locally... but the last one I went to was not a target rich environment.
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Wide Tailz
Registered: Sep 2011
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08-15-12 04:19 PM
I'm not sure if it's been mentioned yet, but love not something that you can "get". It's not a "target". It does not respond to artificial behavior.
Love is a gift. It's much easier to find if you start giving it away first.
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nkhoi
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08-15-12 08:50 PM
Quote from Wide Tailz:
I'm not sure if it's been mentioned yet, but love not something that you can "get". It's not a "target". It does not respond to artificial behavior.
Love is a gift. It's much easier to find if you start giving it away first.
clearly this is too deep for what op has in mind.
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