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nkhoi
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07-12-12 09:06 PM

play him a pre-record chart showing him it just keeps going up day after day.

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William Rennick
 

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07-12-12 09:56 PM


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He's been in a nursing home for three weeks now and I brought by his tax forms to make his estimated payments. He's been throwing up black liquid since last night and a hospital social worker came by asking him questions including his religious preferences. Needless to say, I didn't bother him with the tax payments, and I'm very worried that the end is near.



You're a good man

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piezoe
 

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07-12-12 11:29 PM

When the end is near it is normal to lose interest in the future. And that's quite understandable. Just be there for him. You might be able to cheer him some by getting him to talk about events in his life, if he feels like it. Even when we can't remember what happened five minutes ago we can still remember vividly events of our past, assuming Alzheimer's is not an issue. It's fine to offer to help him get his affairs in order, and to offer help with getting his bills paid etc., assuming he has no close relatives that should be filling that role. Does he have have relatives that should be contacted?

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Eight
 

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07-13-12 12:03 AM


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An old friend of mine, 86 years old seems to be fading away. He doesn't have an internet connection, or even a computer. He watches the tape on CNBC. You would think it's foolish to trade from the tape, but after the 08 meltdown he made a small fortune in Ford and a little bit in GE. Last year he made a chunk in FNMA. Right now the only position he has is BAC, he bought 60,000 shares at an average cost of 8.15. I'm not sure if that's what's bothering him, or if it's his age. Earlier this year he fell and was in bad enough shape that he was admitted to the hospital and then sent to a nursing home for a month. He's barely eating anything and becoming incontinent. I'm not sure what his net worth is, but it's probably close to $1M. He's a cheap SOB, wears threadbare clothes and lives in an old dump of an apartment. I can't really think of anything to perk him up and I don't know if I should bring up moving to a nursing or a retirement home. I never had to handle the problem of aging parents, so I don't know what I should do here with my friend.



I'm living in a community of people like that. There's not much you can do. Taking them to a doctor is not always good because the doctors will screw their lives up with meds. They are too old to learn about nutrition, supplements, herbs, prevention, etc..

See if you can get in the will though, that is the most productive avenue of action I can think of in that situation...

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hughb
 

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07-13-12 07:02 AM


Quote from piezoe:

When the end is near it is normal to lose interest in the future. And that's quite understandable. Just be there for him. You might be able to cheer him some by getting him to talk about events in his life, if he feels like it. Even when we can't remember what happened five minutes ago we can still remember vividly events of our past, assuming Alzheimer's is not an issue. It's fine to offer to help him get his affairs in order, and to offer help with getting his bills paid etc., assuming he has no close relatives that should be filling that role. Does he have have relatives that should be contacted?



He has a daughter that came out here from Colorado when he was admitted to the nursing home. He still wants me taking power of attorney for him, but now that he is getting sicker I don't know if an attorney will set it up now.

I got a surprise when I went through his documents at his apartment - he was a poet in his younger days. I took some of his writings to him a few days ago and it seemed to cheer him up.

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BA_Trader
 

Registered: Feb 2004
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07-13-12 08:18 AM

Old folks like to go out on their own terms. Young folks tend to focus on prolonging life for the sake of it.

Don't pity or coddle the guy or be phony... just treat him like you always did until the end. Hard to do if you see the writing on the wall ...but that's the point.

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